Depression can be clinical or situational. The difference between the two are the length of time and reasons for the depression. Another type of depression is post partum depression. No matter what type of depression your loved one suffers from, trying to confront them during low time can be a very difficult thing to do.
“Snap out of it”
Telling a depressed person to just “snap out of it” is not very understanding. Depression is a chemical reaction in the brain. In fact, these statements can sometimes make the depressed person feel even worse. As someone that has maybe little or no idea of what it is like to suffer from a depressed episode this may be very hard to do.
“I know exactly how you feel”
Just like when you are comforting someone that is grieving each experience is unique. It is impossible to understand what the other person is feeling. No one wants to hear this from someone that is comforting you. It turns the events all about the comforter and not the sufferer. If there is a situation that you have experienced also then perhaps telling the person how you felt when it happened might come out the other way.
“You are always depressed”
Depressed people already feel this way. It is important to be there for your loved one. Leaving someone that is depressed alone is not a great idea. These words may make the depressed person feel like they are a burden to have around. This type of thinking can lead to very radical actions. If you put yourself in their shoes then think about how hard it would be to be depressed all of the time. Often times these patients lose interest in that they once enjoyed. This can be very hard to cope with and if others make light of the situation it may feel like no one seems to honestly care.
“Why can’t you just move on/ get up/ smile?”
These phrases put an accusatory tone and is not helpful. Asking if there is anything you can do to help them is a better way to put it. It is very important to convey some feelings of understanding.
“You’re upset about nothing”
While a depressed person may have lost perspective on exactly how big or small a problem actually is, it is not helpful to tell them that there is nothing to be upset about. Their problems are real. Sometimes just offering to tackle an issue together can over a little bit of light to the person suffering from depression.
Having to care for a person that suffers from depression can be very hard for a caregiver. Often times this must be done by a group because it can be too tasking for one person to take on. Some of the most important things to remember when helping someone that is suffering from depression is just to be there for them. Remembering some of the things that may make things worse for the sufferer may help your loved one.