There are effective ways for dealing with a rude waiter. Of course, even if you have the urge to do it, tripping him as he goes by with a full tray of dishes is not the best way to let him know you’re angry. There are gentler strategies. For example…
1. First, give the guy the benefit of the doubt. He may seem rude to you because he’s having marital troubles, or he just served a table full of bratty kids who threw food all over the place. Then the family had left without leaving a tip.
Remember the biblical adage: a soft answer turneth away wrath. Therefore, if you believe the waiter hasn’t been pleasant enough with you, tell him politely you’re unhappy with the service so far. This should work on most waiters, especially those frustrated because they’ve just been stiffed with no tip from a table full of cheapskates.
2. If the waiter seems determined to be uncooperative, no matter how softly you ask for decent service, you could try to meet rudeness with rudeness. Become an annoying pain. Look very closely at the silverware, make a wry face and ask the waiter to immediately get you clean utensils. When the waiter serves you soup or a food platter, complain that the ingredients are too hot, too cold, too salty or too spicy. Cruel strategy, but could be effective.
If the rudeness continues, so should your gripes. You may have to resort to the old routine: What’s this fly doing in my soup? If the waiter sneers, I think he’s doing the backstroke, it’s time to make a change.
3. If you no longer believe you can placate the rude guy, call over the manager and ask for a different waiter for your table. If the manager has any sense about economics, he’ll comply to avoid losing money after seeing angry you and your party stomping out of the restaurant.
4. If you’re not given another waiter and must suffer through the meal with the same rude guy, you may decide on drastic nastiness. Do as the bad kids did, create a mess on the table and floor, and depart without leaving a tip. An even more cruel gesture would be to tip exactly one penny.
Some strategies suggested here for dealing with a rude waiter may seem a bit drastic. However, you’ve come to the restaurant expecting decent food and service. If one or both are lacking, you have every right to fight back.