We all enjoy time spent with friends, but we also know how life gets in the way of friendship. Friends make it easier to cope with the major issues of life, stress, and all of the problems that come along in life. Friendships help us heal emotionally and physically. Recently a study of people revealed that women with a good support group of friends were healthier and happier than those that did not have that support group.
I have a dear friend that I speak to about once a month and I am also in a better mood when I get off the phone than I was when I began talking to her. Our friendship has remained a constant in my life even when I wasn’t sure of anything else. I also have three dear friends from high school that I remain in touch with at least once a month and I have found that their friendship allows me to express my feelings without them judging me. These friends know that we will remain friends even if we do not always agree.
I recently connected to another friend from high school and we have met for breakfast the past two weeks. It is a nice break from the work that I have at home and the routine of home schooling of my child and cleaning house, cooking, caring for the animals that we have. Our talks ,even if about really nothing, helps encourage me that other people are struggling with the same issues that we are and that speaking to someone always helps us as humans to feel better about the situation that we are in.
What makes a good friend? It is a person who will respect your boundaries, listen openly, give advice wisely and without fear of being wrong, accepting you for who you are and what your beliefs are, and a person who will love and care for you without any expectations. These types of people can be hard to find, but I have always thought that you have to be a true friend to have a true friend.
Feeling connected to someone that you love and trust may be the essential thing that we need in our lives in order to maintain a balance in our lives and be the leading cause of living a healthy,long life. Having friends that value you for who you are is a good reason to feel that you have some worth. You have to know that you and your opinion matter to someone and friends make a person feel worthy. They will give purpose to your life.
Do you have a friend with whom you used to speak to on a regular basis that you haven’t called or visited yet? If so, do it today. Sign off of the computer screen and find his/her number and call them to say hi. I am sure that you will make their day as well as aid in making your own day better.