A valid reason exists for calling some brides to be, Bridezillas. Bridezilla, a term that shares a similiarity with the word Godzilla is no coincidence. Godzilla, like a Bridezilla seemed to suddenly appear and render havoc on Japan, especially Tokyo. Godzilla was very destructive, loud and in the end hard to destroy. Now imagine an excited to be getting married woman suddenly taking on the destructive habits of a Godzilla, but instead of destroying houses and cities, is bent on destroying her own “happily ever after.”
Unfortunately the show “Bridezillas,” has given women carte blanche to act like shrews, be horribly rude and treat their bridal parties and relatives rudely and disrespectfully. Not only do they falsely condone their horrible behavior, but justify with the phrase, “I am the bride and this wedding is all about me.” For many women getting married, being a Bridezilla is almost a badge of honor, but….should a groom be forewarned that IF his fiancé is acting so nastily, will she be as nasty once married?
Weddings though stressful, do not create Bridezillas instantaneously. The wedding becomes an excuse for a woman to act in ways she either acts on a less obvious scale, or allows her to expose her true nature. Let’s be honest, many women will hide aspects of them because they want to be married, and will not jeopardize their relationships so they hide tempers, character flaws and other unpleasant aspects. Being engaged and planning a wedding is simply the excuse to expose the women they are, perhaps a bit exaggerated, but still this behavior is a part of the woman, a man is about to marry.
Where a wedding is meant to be “their” wedding, suddenly the wedding morphs into “her” wedding, as she becomes demanding shouting, “She is the bride and it is her day.” A day meant to celebrate their love and commitment to each other becomes her day to be a spoiled diva for the day. She doesn’t care about his wishes, their future together as husband and wife, but craves the total attention of everyone, no matter the cost. Worse, many women are proud of their horrendous behavior, and encourage other women be Bridezillas.
Men should have warning bells sounding from these events taking place up to the wedding. If she cannot stick to a budget, as weddings can be extremely expensive, will she once married? If she is demanding and whining, will she continue to do so once married? If she treats family without respect, can the damage done be mended after the wedding? Men need to take a look at their women and decide whether the sweet women they asked to marry truly are Bridezillas at heart or somewhere in the middle.
Of course, no statistics exist as to how many couples divorce when the fiancés morphed into Bridezillas. People can claim that some of the theatrics are staged for these shows, but… truth is stranger than fiction ,and to agree to act to an exaggerated manner, makes me wonder how much truth is in their actions and intentions. The flipside is, do these brides to be look at this show later and learn anything at all from their actions?
I would be interested in knowing if any of these women were embarrassed, appalled and perhaps felt disgusted by the manner they portrayed themselves to the world. And, the men, how many of them felt humiliated seeing themselves are treated disrespectfully by their “loving” fiancés. Telling the man she professes to love how worthless he is in front of the world makes me wonder how a man can tolerate such belittling. She may be a bride for a day, but she will be a miserable wife, for as long as it takes for the man to realize he married a nightmare.
With 50% of all marriages ending in divorce in the United States, perhaps Bridezillas simply keeps that number strong. Unfortunately the power of television and the media will convince some women that they can act any way they choose to, because after all, the wedding is about the woman, not the couple, not the man and the woman, but her, all the way to divorce court.