One of the decisions that I made as a teenager has stuck with me for my entire life. It is one decision I made of which I am eternally grateful that I did. That was joining a sorority at age seventeen at my alma mater, Brenau Women’s College at Brenau University.
Many times, sororities get a bad rap. There are plenty of made for TV movies and shows that portray women in these groups as being shallow and underhanded, fake and self-serving. I must say that this is not the experience I had.
I pledged Alpha Gamma Delta, an international women’s fraternity in 1985, and then was uninitiated in early 1986. I love Alpha Gamma Delta. It has meant the world to me. Although I have two biological sisters whom I love dearly, they were much older than me and left out into the world to begin families when I was just eight years old. For the rest of my years at home I was essentially an only child in a way-being much younger than my older sisters and older brother. I had friends at high school but never felt I formed any real bonds.
Being a member of Alpha Gamma Delta at Brenau made all the difference. Suddenly I had over twenty sisters! Some were older-but only a few years. I contribute my academic and leadership success at my alma mater Brenau to Mu Chapter of Alpha Gamma Delta.
I held leadership positions on both campus and within the sorority, which is most often called a women’s fraternity. Then as some of my older sisters graduated, there was always a new pledge class of new sisters each year. Relationships could be a little rocky sometimes, as within any family, but with Alpha Gam, there is a loyalty that I cannot describe.
I moved into the chapter house in my sophomore year and I still cherish those days-having sisters to hang out with, study with, double-date with-just being with other women my age. We had the very best of times. Those friendships have sustained me over the years. These women were bridesmaids in my wedding and I was one in theirs. They have been at my baby showers and my wedding showers. Although we mostly all live scattered around the country, support and instant love is always there with just a phone call. I have never had such close friends before or after these.
We have hung together through deaths of parents and other loved ones. We have supported the ups and the downs of child-rearing. And when we get together now and then, we still can have the most fun and crazy times.
Be sure to look beyond the hype in the media about sororities and sorority girls. There are many wonderful sororities. I was great friends with other sorority girls on the Brenau campus chapters, including those of Phi Mu, Chi Omega, Alpha Chi Omega, Zeta Tau Alpha, Alpha Delta Pi, and Delta Delta Delta. Every campus is unique and every chapter of a sorority is unique.
My sorority, Alpha Gamma Delta, has chapters all over the world. Every year, I meet and find new Alpha Gamma Delta sisters from other universities. There is always immediate bond for the loyalty that Alpha Gamma Delta inspires in all its chapters. When you meet a new Alpha Gam for the first time, you feel like you have found a long-lost family member-there is always an immediate connection.
From experience, I feel that being a part of such a tight knit group is wonderful, and I would highly recommend experiencing Greek life and sisterhood.