When your cat passes away it can be a very heart wrenching feeling. Although you may hear the phrase “It was just a cat”, by those who have never lost a close pet, you know that some animals are more then just pets and they will always hold a special place in your heart. When they are gone it leaves an empty spot and a sadness that may last for quite some time. Many people may simply not be able to understand what the big deal is when a beloved pet cat dies.
Many cat owners begin to think of their furry friend as one of the family. This is especially true if the owner either doesn’t have children or has had adult children that have left the nest. For children that lose a cat, it may prove to be a situation that they can’t understand at all. They may feel like the pet will return soon or that it is the Veterinarians fault for not being able to make their sick kitty feel better. Explaining the death of an animal to a child needs to be done as simply as possible. In that way it will be understood that the animal won’t be returning and that no one is to blame. It may also lessen the fear that a child may feel towards death. Letting your child know that the parent is also sad will help them know it is okay to feel that way themselves.
Elderly people that lose their pet cat may struggle even more so with grief. It may be that the cat was their only company . It is a proven fact that elderly people that have a cat or dog that is depending on them, heal more quickly from surgeries and ailments. More so then those that don’t have the responsibility of caring for a cat or dog. Pet cats help the elderly maintain a better frame of mind. Therefore when the cat passes away, they feel lonely and un-needed. Losing their beloved cat may also bring to mind memories of people in their life that have passed away also. True depression can be caused in a senior that has lost their pet so steps should be taken to help the person cope, if possible.
Grieving for a cat may show up in a variety of ways. Some people feel angry, especially if the cat was young and they expected it to live a much longer life. Anger at the Vet is not unheard of either. Pet owners tend to think of their Vet as a miracle worker, when in reality the cat may have received the best care possible. Being sad, crying or feeling depressed may also be signs of pet grief. Almost all pet owners whose cat or dog has passed away will state that they felt guilt, even if they did the best they could to maintain a healthy life style for their animal.
Coping with the grief of a lost cat can take time and patience. Be gentle on yourself and know that what you are feeling is normal. If you had lost a “people friend” you would be expected to be sad and show grief. It’s okay to grieve the death of a furry friend too. Normal grief will fade small bits at a time, but if the grieving process does not get better or it worsens in time, it may be best to find a support group to help you recover from the loss.
Source: Personal and