We all know that pregnant women and new mothers have to give up things like smoking, drinking and partying, but we often fail to realize that we also may have to give up habits that are not necessarily bad. Here are some of the things that I have given up as a mother and why.
The right to be embarrassed
Children are not known for their discretion. This is illustrated by an experience that I had with my sweet young son in the middle of a crowded department store bathroom. He asked me, at the top of his lungs what a tampon was. I quietly told him that it was something we would talk about later. He answered, again at the top of his lungs, “You mean you don’t know?” Needless to say, I was mortified,and quickly ushered him out of the store, telling his father that I would never take him to the restroom again. However, that was only one of many embarrassing and funny moments with my children.
Private baths, or any time alone in the bathroom for that matter
Getting a bath by yourself as a mother is a nice dream, but it’s not going to happen. The moment you settle into a bathtub by yourself, enjoying the soft candlelight and music, you are likely to hear a knock on your door needing you desperately. Your children seem to save all their emergencies for the time that you find for yourself. This is nearly as inevitable as death and taxes. You are better off taking short showers if you want to stay clean. Going to the bathroom often provides similar results. I swear that the real reason so many mothers become incontinent later in life is that they have simply not been allowed to use the bathroom when they need to.
Sleeping in on weekends or any other time
Our children become our new alarm clocks, and after much research and looking everywhere on my children, I have not found a snooze button. They often show up at our bedside, begging for attention first thing in the morning. In the beginning it may seem that any sleep at all is a habit we have to give up, but it does get better, or so I’ve been told.
Intimacy with your spouse
It seems that children’s nightmares are timed perfectly so as to coincide with the moment you and your spouse may have a tiny bit of time alone together. Need I say more?
In spite of all the drawbacks, being a mother is still the most rewarding job in the world and I would not trade it for the world.