In the 1950’s men were the sole supporters of their families. Mom stayed home and cared for the children and the house. She rarely worried about money, dad always gave her a small weekly allowance that more than met her needs. Unfortunately in today’s economy this is not the usual situation anymore and most women provide more than half of their household’s financial needs. Daycare centers are crowded with the children of working mothers, most of them single as well. Most marriages have a fifty percent or greater chance of failure. The children of our new family structure are 65% more likely to become addicted to drugs or have problems in the legal system than in the 1950’s. So what happened?
Well some women felt that they had been stripped of their independence, others had to work due to the increased cost of living, and still others had children out of wedlock leaving their kids with no other form of support. Men had simply become less useful to women. Now a woman could have a career and a child with no regard to the father role. In doing so they have intentionally stripped a child’s right to have a father.
Men are generally financially oriented beings. How much they earn determines how successful they are and how masculine they have become. Their ability to care for their family is a measuring tool to their self-esteem, when you remove this task from them it is similar to removing their masculinity. Many wives want to help the household during financial crisis, but in order to maintain their husband’s ego he really should be allowed to be the “Hero” of the day. Woman want the same things men do these days, but this is causing disorder of the family structure. How can a child look up to his father if he is sitting home while his mother is out working to secure the future of the family. And what happens to the children of these mother-less families. No home-cooked meals, clean clothes, or motherly advice. To be honest there are many couples that decide to switch roles willingly, but that is consistent with putting a dress on the husband. How can he maintain his masculinity in this situation.
The intimate lives of these couples often suffer due to role confusion. Therefore the marriage itself becomes an unhappy one. Next comes the divorce and another broken home. Aren’t modern day families great?
The solution is to go back in time, with some minor adjustments. Women who choose to bear children should either plan to work at home, stay home, or do some short part-time work until the child is at the very least in school. Men should be allowed and expected to support the entire family financially, and occasionally be allowed by his wife to be the boss and disciplinarian in the home. We know women are smart, but are they smart enough to allow their man to be a man?