Now, there’s nothing wrong with believing in yourself. It gives you the fuel to keep going when you think the world is against you, but sometimes believing in yourself is a bit – delusional. Wait, let me explain.
Most of us had Moms or Dads that always said, “You are the best…,” and as I said, there is some importance to that, but then there is what I call, the American Idol Moment.
Our friends usually don’t help us grow either, because our friends don’t want to be mean and tell us we need more work on our skill or talent. Friends want to be nice, and sometimes being “nice” isn’t very nice to our growth as a person.
The moment when someone (okay all of us, at one time or another) realizes that other people are better than them (despite what their parents might have said), and/or they aren’t as good as they told themselves. That moment you see people shake their head, run out of the audition studio (or off stage), curse at the camera and say, “Those judges suck,” huddle in a hugging group with their parents, etc can be a devastating moment or a powerful moment.
We all need a moment of brutal honesty (for some, in front of a national TV audience). It’s important to know that we may be the best at something in our little fishbowl of existence, but as we swim into the ocean of the rest of the planet, we learn (sometimes in a brutal way) we must continue to get better. The old way we used to prepare isn’t good enough, we must adapt and hone our skills and get better.
We also need a reality (pardon the pun) check and see that just because we “think” we are the best as something doesn’t make it so. Sure, there are exceptions, but I’m talking about those types of people that try out for American Idol that think they are singers, and they’re not. I’m also talking about people that stubbornly trudge forward with the idea that they are great, but “nobody gets them,” and actually the nobodys are actually trying to save them some heartache.
Don’t be afraid to change your focus. Sure, there are people that never settle on anything, and hop around for the quick money or fame, but we normally choose one thing. Sometimes we choose wrong, and if we are faced with an American Idol Moment, we need to try to; 1. Get better, or 2. Get out and try something else.
What do you think?