Here come the holidays. Included in that term holidays is Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s, all rolled into one and coming along, one right after the other. For many, the holidays are a magical, happy and fun time. Time spent with family, decorating, baking, gift giving and receiving, parties, shopping, it is all looked forward to by most folks. But, hey, that is so much activity, all at once, money issues, pressure to get along with less than liked family members, conflict, deadlines and yes, joy and sadness often gather around in the holiday season. Here are some causes for the holiday blues and some tips to help you beat them.
There are many reasons why the holidays may not be such a joyful time for some folks. In times of bad economy, money is often short and the pressure to do it all, buy it all, with limited funds can be enormous. Having no money can be very depressing during the holidays. Another cause for sadness during the holidays is a loss of a loved one or missing family members that always just lit up the holiday season. Loss of friends can also be a reason. Death in a family or circle of friends is hard to deal with, especially when it is a time of gathering. You remember them and you grieve.
The stress of getting everything done in a timely manner during the holidays is also an important fact to consider. High pressure and stress, especially for three months in a row can be overwhelming. It can cause loss of energy, tiredness and depression. Winter is cold and during this season, just the bitter cold temperatures and being snowed in, kept indoors, can cause moodiness, sadness and depression. This is season for lots of company to drop by and while that is great, after many unplanned gatherings, you may feel like hiding out for a few weeks just to avoid uninvited guests. Then, on the other hand, some folks have no relatives, friends or anyone to enjoy the holidays with and that can certainly lead to loneliness, blues and depression.
To deal with money issues, remember that it is not what you give but, that you did give and no matter how small or inexpensive a gift is, it will be appreciated. The local Dollar store can be a lifesaver and big money saver during the holidays. Cute and affordable gifts, decorations and yes, even many foods and snacks can be purchased for very little money. You can even buy your Christmas cards there. To cut down on holiday shopping woes, save coupons and ask friends and relatives to save theirs for you, too. Also, take advantage of the percent off coupons to retail stores that come to you via mail. Though you may be tempted to run your credit card bill up to have what you think you and others should have, resist that urge. You will pay for it dearly later and it can make you quite sad to overspend. That can certainly cause holiday blues.
Dealing with the sadness of missing relatives and lost friends during the holidays can be tough. Remember that the person you love and miss would want you to be happy. Tell stories about them, share pictures, memories and keep their spirit alive with your good thoughts. Create a special photo album just in their memory.
Pace yourself during the holiday season to avoid burnout and tiredness. Start your shopping early and do not stress about the little things. Use the internet to find those hard to find gifts. If you are into baking, bake early and freeze to avoid having to cook so much at one time. Ask for help, if you need it. Most folks are delighted to bring a dish or two, drinks and food to a gathering. Don’t be afraid to delegate chores, responsibility and tasks.
For Winter depression, surround yourself with cheerful things inside your house. Scented candles, holiday music, fun games, hot cocoa, all of those things can ward off the stuck inside the house syndrome. Buy some cheerful indoor plants.
If unplanned guests are overstaying their welcome, do not be afraid to tell them so, in a nice way. To avoid too many unexpected visitors, place a sign on your door stating that you are busy and will be occupied for that day. Then, you can have your very needed time to yourself. Make calls and let folks know when you would like to see them and for how long. Do not be afraid to speak up. You can’t be a happy hostess if you are unhappy, now can you? Good communication is the key. Be kind but, be firm.
Being all alone during the holidays is one of the most common reasons for holiday depression and season blues. Don’t contain yourself, reach out to people and join in with another family or friend’s celebration. If this is not possible, you may want to reach out to a person you have lost contact with. Treat yourself to a good movie, a good book and a good meal. Enjoy some holiday shows, visit Christmas lights shows and do not be afraid to go alone. All of these tips will lift your spirits. Another tip is to start a project or craft that you want to do. You will be so busy, you won’t have time to dwell on being alone.
There are so very many causes for holidays blues but, you can beat them all with these helpful tips. From asking for help, to avoiding over usage of your credit cards, try to surround yourself with happy people, don’t over exert yourself and be merrier. It is the season, after all. Happy holidays!