Grandparents love to spoil their grandchildren when the holidays roll around. The opportunity to shower their pride and joy with gifts that they hope will make the occasion just a little brighter is one they take very seriously. Occasionally, a well meaning grandparent can purchase a gift or two that results in a bit of conflict, stress or disappointment. Here are some suggestions for grandparents to follow which will help to ensure that a wonderful holiday is had by all.
Check With the Child’s Parents Before Making a Big Purchase. It is not always the wisest idea to surprise a grandchild with the newest gaming system, a laptop or even the latest technology to download and listen to music. The child’s parents may be planning to purchase this item themselves or they would rather the child not receive such an extravagant gift from anyone. Occasionally there may also be other factors involved as well. Unbeknown to the grandparents, the child and the parents may have an understanding that a certain amount of savings must be used towards the gift after the holidays are over. In order not to step on the parent’s toes and possibly remove the opportunity for a learning experience about saving for expensive items and not being handed them, it would certainly behoove the grandparents to let the parents know what holiday gift they plan on giving the child.
Research What Is Popular With Children in the Age Bracket. Fads and trends come and go so quickly. It can be difficult for parents to keep up with what the red hot items are, let alone the grandparents. Spend some time researching what clothing, music and games are popular with children in the appropriate age bracket. This will certainly help to ensure that your gift is well received. It can surely suck the joy right out of the moment if your gift is unwrapped and the look on the child’s face is one of disappointment rather than joy.
Cash is King with Children. Grandparents may feel that giving money to their grandchildren as a holiday gift is inappropriate. They may also feel a bit let down that they miss out on shopping for and presenting the kids with a lovely wrapped gift. However, children as young as nine or ten often enjoy having the freedom to go shopping after the holiday and choose their own items.
Include a Gift Receipt With the Holiday Present. Children and especially teenagers can be quite specific in what clothes and jewelery they wear and what games, music and movies they want to enjoy in their free time. Including the receipt in the gift packaging will allow the grandchild to make an exchange or return if they wish. Try not to feel hurt that the present you chose for him or her was not quite what they hoping to receive. It says far more about the fickle taste of teens and their very specific ideas about what is “cool” than it does about their consideration for your feelings.