Have you been secretly wishing to become a swinger but you’re worried that your wife won’t be into it? Everyone has their secret fantasies and your wife might just surprise you. Even though there is a chance that she might be into it, you still should not come right out and ask her about it. It may be better to warm her up to the idea first.
Tell her that you have been dreaming about swinging and wondering if it could be right for you. Tell her all your feelings about it, so that she understands your reasoning for suggesting it. If you give an in depth explanation, you just may touch upon something that interests your wife. Let her know how you think it may work and why it could be fun. Make sure that you know enough about swinging and the swinging lifestyle to answer all of her questions. She may want to know how people meet swingers and whether the sex is safe. She may also want to know what happens if she is not interested in the man that she gets hooked up with.
If your wife seems interested, you may want to find a swinging couple that you can meet casually for lunch with no sex involved. It may make her more comfortable to ask them questions in a relaxed atmosphere will no expectation of sex. She can talk to them about what feelings they experienced when they started swinging and how they felt about each other having sex with other people. Sometimes a man may think he wants to have sex with another woman, but he does not realize the feelings that appear when he sees his wife with another man.
You may also want to take her to a swingers meet up where she can observe what is going on without participating.
This will help her to understand how partners are chosen when swinging and how comfortable everyone attending is with their sexuality. This may be the moment when the two of you decide that swinging is a great idea or one or both of you run for the door as fast as you can. If you have been dreaming about it, it is worth bringing it up to your wife.
If she is not interested in swinging, do not push the subject. You can bring it up at a later date in time.