People argue. Some people argue every day. The key to arguing is not to necessarily win the argument, but to get your point across and actually prove that what you’re saying has merit. If you set out to argue just for the sake of arguing or to simply prove you’re right, you’ve hit a wrong path to arguing straight from the get-go.
The first key to arguing well? Know what you’re arguing about, and stay on course. Too many people get so caught up in the heat of an argument that they actually lose focus on what they were arguing about to begin with. Stick to the original point you were trying to make, and if you forget it, admit that you no longer know why you’re arguing and promptly end the argument.
Don’t raise your voice. Saying it louder doesn’t make it more true, and doesn’t get your point across any better. Rather, this just puts your opponent on edge and makes them want to disregard everything you say, right or otherwise. Keep your voice to a regular speaking voice without raising it or sounding condescending, and you’ll better keep your listener’s attention to the point you’re trying to make, and you’ll keep them from being prompted to raise THEIR voice as well.
Listen. An argument goes two ways. You can’t argue just by yourself. Listen to the other person’s point of view, and if they make or prove a point, admit it. Don’t just ramble on and on trying to counteract it.
Oh. And admit when you’re wrong. Tough, I know. But do it anyway.
Name-calling is a no-no. You can’t take harsh words and name-calling back, even if you apologize. Calling names just lessens anything you have to say anyhow, since you are willing to resort to childish behavior, your point must be childish as well.
If you get emotional (which is easy to do in an argument), take a moment to just breathe in and out and retake a logical standpoint. You don’t have to bawl like a baby to make a point. Stay calm.
Look at an argument more as a discussion of differences rather than a fight to prove who’s right and who’s wrong, and you’ll have a successful argument that will actually lead somewhere. If you head into an argument looking for a fight to prove you are the smartest, most right person in the world, you’ll just come out looking like a petty donkey and no one will take you seriously. Look at an argument as a way to discuss a difference of opinion where everyone gets a say and you’ll have a better, more conclusive argument rather than an all-out brawl.
And lastly, if at any point the argument is starting to lose wind, simply ask your opponent if it’s worth arguing about anymore. They’re probably wanting to end the argument just as much as you are, and some arguments just have no clear winners or proven points. Don’t beat a dead horse, no matter how much you want to.