Let’s face it: a long distance friendship is not something you would normally choose to deal with. When someone you love very dearly (best friend, close friend, family member, etc.) moves far away, it is not exactly the most fun thing in the world. Honestly, it can be depressing, but don’t let it get the best of you. A long distance friendship can be, and usually is, very difficult and painful to cope with, but there are some precautions you can take to avoid drifting apart from each other – as long as the both of you are willing to commit.
Precautionary Step: One
First of all, though it’s a challenge, you must try to convince yourself that it doesn’t need to make a difference whether your friend lives ten hours away rather than ten minutes away. The friend that you laughed with and confided in is still the same friend, no matter what the distance.
Precautionary Step: Two
Next, you must keep in mind that a long distance friendship requires even more patience and understanding than a local friendship needs. If your friend hasn’t been able to talk to you as much as they used to, since moving away, don’t fall to pieces and most definitely don’t fall for the out of sight, out of mind trap. Just because your friend hasn’t been talking to you as much as you’d like, don’t convince yourself that they are ignoring you. For instance, maybe your friend moved to where a better job or the college of their choice is. If that’s the case, your friend might be busier now than they have ever been, so try not to take it personally.
Precautionary Step: Three
Most importantly, keep in touch. Make it a point to talk with your friend on a regular basis. From time to time, let your friend know how much you care about them and miss them; let them know that you will always be there. Try to keep up-to-date with their life, and discuss it with them. You need to show your friend that you don’t want them to be out of your life just because they moved away.
It’s tough to keep a good friendship when it turns into a long distance friendship, but it is possible, although a very difficult situation to deal with. It takes plenty of commitment, but if you truly care about your friend, it shouldn’t make a difference where they live. Distance should never be an excuse as to why you lost a friend.