Teenagers can have strong feelings about the world around them. They are trying to discover who they are and their place in the world. Fighting is a natural part of growing up and teens seem to do it with each other more.
Watching teens fight with each other can be very hard to do. You naturally want to step in and stop the argument but it is important to see if the teens can get a conclusion by themselves. You can’t let it get violent and it is bad to let the anger fester. If the argument starts to get out of hand you may need to intervene.
If it starts to get too out of control you may need to get both teens to sit down and relax and try to talk to each other without shouting. You will probably need to be a mediator but with teens it is very important not to pick a side. Teens can easily be upset if they feel they are backed against a wall. You will need to feel how both teens are feeling.
It is hard to get two different opinions to work out a problem. You may need to compromise and find the best solution to the situation. If you can get both sides to bend a little the solution might show itself.
It is hard to be a teenager and sometimes they might need to have quality time alone with you. Take some time for each teen and let them talk. Don’t try to correct them just listen to them and you may find out where they are coming from.
For most teen disagreements you should let them work it out themselves if they are not hurting each other. If and when the teenagers work out the problem you should praise them for getting through the tough times. It is good to reinforce good behavior with a nice reward of some kind.
If you have ever watched animal siblings you can see that they do not always get along with each other. They can fight with each other and some will get along with some of their siblings better then other siblings. The same goes for humans. It is important for the growing process to disagree with each other occasionally so they can learn how to handle problems when they become adults.
If you would like to read more about how to handle teen rivalry and fighting you can go on the net to http://parentingteens.about.com/od/behavioranddiscipline/a/sibling_rivalry.htm for more information.