My house is decidedly masculine. Actually, my house is decidedly TRASHED, but it’s trashed in all the “man” ways- muddy work boots on the floor, a welding hat thrown in the corner, rolled up carpet in the hallway that has yet to be laid down, hunting bags and gear that stink like elk piss and are shoved in the side bedroom, and various antler sheds in the living room waiting to be hung up. The only girly things in the house are my contributions to the mess, like underwear thrown on the bathroom floor, deodorant knocked to the floor by the cat and batted into the living room, and a tampon wrapper behind the TV.
All mess aside, the basic decor is brown, brown, and more brown. Thankfully, that’s my favorite color, but my fiance wants to incorporate more hunter greens (surprise surprise) and deep blues to make the house look more balanced and lived in. So we combined our decorative tastes to make the house look both male and female without one overpowering the other.
In order to do this, you have to decorate each room with both sexes in mind. So if you have antlers hung in the living room, paint it a more female color, like a light, dusty blue or a pale lavender along one wall. If your bathroom is bright blue, place purple and black towels in the room so balance everything out.
For the kitchen, a basic yellow is a great balance, and hang up your pots and pans like decorations. Whoever cooks the most should choose the main decor (in my case, that’s my fiance- he’s lucky I cook him Top Ramen now and then).
Don’t go outrageously one direction or the other. Which means you can’t paint one room camouflage and another room hot pink. Stick to basic neutrals that you both can stand, like light blues, greens, maroon, and basic white, if you can’t stop bickering about it.
I hung up some horse plates on the wall to incorporate the antlers that are still on the living room floor. We’ve recently added folding chairs to the living room, and a huge Kirby vacuum nobody bothers to put in the closet, and we cover these living room eyesores with afghans in mocha brown and blackish blue. Marvelous.
The best way to agree on decor is to agree on one color that both of you like and go from there. Luckily the only thing girly about me is my lady parts, so we were easily able to agree upon brown, which we’re stuck with anyway, greens, and blues. I basically told my fiance I don’t care what he does to the house so long as we finally quit looking like we live in a storage unit.
We basically just put up things as we go, and put up whatever we want. Our living room looks like an explosion of indecision and confusion, which suits the both of us just fine. Nothing really matches- as we have a picture of a Brazilian LDS temple where my fiance went on his mission sitting directly under a John Deere Christmas hat ornament that I just am in love with.
The key is to decorate your house how you want to, and make sure the both of you get a say so your house doesn’t get decorated in the style of one gender more than another.