Feeling blue? Here’s five easy ways to avoid excessively lamenting an unfortunate situation and put you in a chipper mood.
Leave the environment in which you became upset. We associate, sometimes subconsciously, our memories and emotions with the places in which they occur. For the same reasons certain places in which fond events have transpired make us feel happy, a place in which something unfortunate happens will continue to remind us of unpleasing feelings. Thus, leaving a room or taking a walk outside will allow the brain to take in new sensory data, making us less likely to dwell on unhappy emotions.
Indulge in a hobby. Sometimes emotions became too extreme for us to handle right away; we may have compulsive reactions or feel helpless because our negative feelings become consuming. One of the best ways to calm down is to set the issue aside for a short amount of time—enough so that when we reevaluate the initial shock is over and we can think more rationally. Rather than fuming over a seemingly impossible difficulty, playing a game or working on a project may temporarily usher in a new calmness until we’re ready to deal with an issue.
Talk to a friend. Whether you feel the need for someone to understand your point of view or to rid yourself of a weight on your shoulders, venting to a friend is a valuable output. Articulating exactly why you are upset to someone else will force you to create perspective while gaining support from someone who cares about you. Often times, acknowledging and going through why something is bothering you with another person will relieve a considerable amount of tension and inevitably make the matter less threatening as it might have seemed originally. Additionally you may be granted some advice.
Write in a journal. If you for some reason do not feel comfortable speaking with a friend, whether because you feel too emotional or would otherwise prefer handling an issue on your own, writing a journal entry can be a powerful alternative. As with speaking to a friend, writing an entry will force you to articulate exactly what is bothering you and why, and may relieve some of the tension. Furthermore, because no one will read your entry, you can freely speak your mind without the threat of someone misunderstanding or condemning your opinions.
Start singing. It may sound silly, but have you ever seen anyone who was honestly angry sing? Throwing your feelings into a song can put them to artistic use, but moreover you will inevitably decrease your level of annoyance because you’ll be spending all your energy carrying a tune. You may want to start with an appropriate song, perhaps something mild, and work your way into a more humorous piece. If you can make yourself laugh by singing you’ve beaten the blues (this is even more easy if you aren’t especially musically inclined).
What do all these solutions have in common? Perpetuating unpleasant emotions won’t make the issue go away. Instead, calm down and evaluate the situation from a calm and rational state of mind. You can take the action to feel better immediately!