Do you occasionally feel like you will be single forever, eternally a loser in love? Have you just about given up on the idea that your soul mate exists? Don’t distress fellow single person! Help is here, and with a great big push and a shove in the right direction, you don’t have to spend all eternity alone!
No one really ever wants to lock themselves away from the outside world and become a born again virgin do they? All you need to do is understand why you are not on the dating scene, then start to make dating a regular thing in your social life by shaking things up a bit.
It could be that a previous relationship was non too successful and this has put you off, it could be that you have lost the will to even look – SINGLE PERSON slap yourself in the face and lets start again!
If you’re anything like me and find it tough meeting the right people to date, it can be a never ending story of wondering how exactly people hook themselves dates and make it up the isle these days.
You may work unsociable hours making it even tougher to get into the dating world again or maybe you lost self confidence. Or maybe, with out even realizing it, you’re just a freak magnet that attracts all the crap that everyone else has kicked to the curb.
Whatever you realize the issue to be, you have to start to feel good about yourself before the opposite sex will start to feel good about you!
A few pointers in the right direction would be to:
Shake up your image – Yes, its makeover time! Get a new hair cut and some new outfits. Nothing shows a new you like updating your image!
Read magazines or surf the internet for new style ideas – This will not just inspire you to take action, but also to put you on the right track fashion wise.
Ditch those unwanted extra pounds of ‘comfort’ – this can be a way of meeting new people on its own by joining a martial arts, aerobics, dance class, etc.
Develop a positive attitude – no one wants to be surrounded by your negativity plus doom and gloom 24/7. Its time to change your life – give yourself a big boot up the arse!
So after you have given yourself a new look and a positive attitude towards dating, we’re good to go!
If you have not been asked out recently, it doesn’t mean that no one wants to date you! It could be a variation of things:
Without knowing it, you may come across as unapproachable – to get over this, try smiling more. Drop in some flirty eye contact and instead of using one liners that give off ‘come near me and die’ signals – why not open your mind to start giving out positive signals.
Dressing inappropriately – Some of those tricky Men folk love a Woman that dresses with sexiness in mind, but if you are going to wear a dress that could double as a belt you will attract the wrong kind of attention. Wearing cool flirty clothes that don’t show off all your assets mean that some things really are best left to the imagination!
Going to the wrong places? – If you find that you are stuck in a rut of visiting the same hang outs every time you leave the house, then change them! Don’t go to the same bar/club/restaurant, shake it up a little and you will attract different people into your social scene!
OK – Its now time to decide what kind of Man you want to date. Any old Man just will not do. Make a list of what you want from your new Man. Be realistic – don’t note down Millionaires only as seriously, we are not all that lucky. Also take a look at your own life before walking into someone else’s. Before throwing yourself into the lion’s den, be sure of what you want. If you are looking for a long term relationship, marriage, kids, etc – make a list of this.
You now need to propel yourself into the dating world, but what if you have no idea where to start?
A few little ideas of where to find a bloke could be:
Internet Dating – If you are in no mood to leave the house and go trawling different restaurants/bars/clubs etc, then take it easy with a nice cuppa and find your perfect date from home. It’s a really easy option with all the great dating web sites out there these days, and you don’t have to put all that effort in with doing hair and make up! All you need to do is choose a good photo or two!
The best idea is always to sign up with 2/3 online internet dating sights and create a realistic profile of yourself. If you are overweight, don’t be tempted to tick the curvy box. If you have brown eyes; don’t claim that they are blue, etc. Your personality should also be true to you and attract the right people no matter if you are bordering on the anorexic, slightly overweight or insane box!
House Parties – Either throw one yourself or get your friends to throw one.
A great ‘looking for love party’ to throw is where every person that comes along brings a decent single friend of theirs that they personally will not date for a particular reason; however they see that the person is too good to be left alone in singledom forever. You must stress that this is not a ‘one night stand’ party so absolutely no freaks, liars or cheats or bad boys allowed – no matter how drop dead gorgeous they happen to be.
Go Clubbing – But do realize that the clubbing scene is not the best place to find a fella that wants to be in a relationship!
Most people that hit the club scene are really only looking for a one night stand, however there are the shy folk to be discovered.
Weddings – Yes a wedding is always a good place to start as Men tend to look at their friends in question and start to realize how much they want what their friend has got.
Start rounding up all you coupled friends and find out when they are getting married and then make sure you get an invite! If no friends are getting married, then ask friends to make sure that include you as their wedding ‘plus one’. With alcohol flowing freely, it can be a great way to chat confidently. The trick is to obviously not to drink the bar dry as this will give off the wrong impression of you. A couple of cheeky glasses of Champagne are fine. A couple of bottles however are a no no.
Now that you know where to go to find that date, you look good and have gained a positive attitude towards dating – let’s get you up and running and out in the dating world once again.
In the spirit of ‘try before you buy’ go out on as many dates as possible without being thought of as some sort of dating hooker!
And off course (not that you will need it) – Good Luck!