My little sis is now in her 2nd year of college, and she transferred to a University away from home and is now dealing with living on her own for the first time, and dealing with some personality conflicts with her new roommates. It’s not that she has trouble getting along with them (she’s one of those kids who gets along with everyone), it’s that she’s really learning that there is a world beyond her comfort zone with her roommates who are messy, swear, play videogames all day, and lounge on the furniture in the living room when my sister would really rather have time to herself.
She’s learning how to share- the bathroom, the fridge, the television, etc., with other people who don’t have the same interests she does. She’s a happy-go-lucky sporty church girl, whereas 2 of her 3 roommates are videogame freaks who swear constantly and don’t appear to hit church on Sundays. My sister spends a lot of her time holed up in her room or hanging out with her 3rd roommate, a girl who she went to church and school with at home, to remain in her comfort zone.
However, being the friendly, outgoing person that she is, if my sister hears a knock on her door and it’s her “other” roommates inviting her to a game of Halo, she’s all over it. She wants to get along with all of them, whether they share the same interests or not. She may plug her ears every time she hears the “f” bomb, but she’s beginning to learn that despite their differences in nearly everything, they can have a ball together anyhow.
The key to getting along with your college roommates is to have an open mind. Clearly you aren’t going to get a custom-picked roommate who shares your same interests, moral values, or even the same religion or family values. You have to put your differences aside and learn to at least tolerate your roommate who you have nothing in common with. You also have to let things go- if they choose to talk about boys all day and you couldn’t care less, if they swear like a sailor and you don’t, you’ll just have to grin and bear it or go to your room. You can’t help the differences between you, and neither can they, so you may as well make the best of it.
If you and your roommate have absolutely no common ground, you can at least invite one another to school functions designed to get college kids out of their holes and allow them to meet new people. By making the initiative to invite your roommate to hang out with you at the water slide contest, you are creating a silent truce and agreement that you will try to get along. Likewise, if you are invited to hang out with your roommate, so long as you’re comfortable with the situation, go ahead and give it a go. You’re going to be living together for at least a semester, so you may as well make the most of it.
Some roommates just never get along, but it stems mainly from not putting in any effort than it does with just plain having nothing in common. It’s a new world when you’re in college, and you’ll just have to deal with the fact that not everyone is just like you. Make the most of it, broaden your horizons, and try to get along with your roommate.