An unhappy marriage often stems from jealousy. Handling the jealous episodes in a marriage is vital. Jealousy can quickly turn a happy marriage into a miserable mess. How do you handle your spouse’s jealousy? Even more important, what if you’re the jealous one? You can lose a lot of sleep and previous time worrying for no good reason. How do you handle jealousy in your marriage? These five things can turn an unhappy marriage around, but it will take time.
1. Give it time. If your partner is jealous, give them a chance to see the real you. Show them they have no reason to be suspicious. Be patient. In the early stages of a marriage, some people are insecure. They don’t know what to expect from you. They haven’t gotten used to your ways. Over time, they will see that they have nothing to fear.
2. Think about your actions. Is there some secretive habit you have that’s leading to their suspicions? Do you have a flirtatious nature? Nobody wants to look like a fool, while their spouse flirts with someone else. Do you often go out at night alone without inviting them along? Do you push your spouse away when attending events? A marriage is a partnership. You don’t have to do everything together, but your partner should have a choice in the matter
3. Blame the source. Try to see where the jealousy is coming from. If you are the jealous one, think about your past relationships. Are you subconsciously imprinting bad experiences of the past onto your spouse? Are you justified in your jealousy? If your spouse is the jealous one, try to get to the root of the problem. Whether it be an unhappy childhood full of self doubt or a different attitude toward the boundaries of faithfulness, your spouse may feel justified in their jealousy.
4. Don’t force the issue. The quickest way to breed a cheater is to accuse your spouse of cheating. If you are the jealous one, try to keep unjustified jealousy under wraps. Failing to do so may lead to a very unhappy relationship. It may even drive your partner straight into the arms of another. The simplest way to encourage your spouse to be trustworthy is to show your trust.
5. Talk about it. No matter which partner is displaying jealousy, a non-judgmental conversation is the best way to prevent an unhappy marriage. Leave out the accusations. Simply explain how you feel about the situation. Be sincere and honest. Tell them respectfully why you are jealous. Let your partner know why you are so uncomfortable. Don’t hold it in until you burst out in anger. Avoid the silent treatment. Open communication is the best way to keep any relationship going strong.