During the stage from the age of 10 to 12, our daughters begin to transition from children to young ladies. Their bodies begin to change drastically. They begin to develop breast. Their cycles begin and other changes begin to occur. Sometimes they are scared and have no idea what is going on. At times these growth spurts and changes tend to create havoc in their body’s to such a degree their friends turn on them and can be quite cruel. The changes seem to be different from what others may expect. Friends and others can be demeaning in their actions and statements. It is at these times when a mother, aunt, uncle, brother, sister and even cousin can be vital, instrumental and very important in guaranteeing the mental and psychological health of our daughter. These people, relatives and friends can strengthen us by protecting and guiding us when others want to damage our self esteem and ego.
It is imperative to be aware of the ups and downs your daughter, sister, cousin or friend is going through. When you notice a change in her attitude, begin to ask questions. This is the time it is vital for a mother to step in and take control. It is also the time for a father to begin to build, guide, and strengthen his little princess ego.
But to keep her in good mental and emotional health, there are great ways the negatives experienced on the outside can be countered from the inside.
Mother: Show Your Pre-Teen How to Care for Her Body
First and foremost, little girls must know how to care for their bodies. Nothing is more sad than to see a little girl who knows nothing about caring for her hair, her skin, her entire body during her cycle or during other times of development. Your daughter must know how to moisturize, cleanse and guarantee that she stays fresh throughout the day. Teaching her the importance of bathing, moisturizing and maintaining her body herself is very important in guaranteeing her self esteem. Demonstrating to her how to use a little talcum powder all over her body, deodorant and other forms of maintaining a fresh fragrance and clean body throughout the day is a mothers responsibility. Its not only a very good feeling, but its good for the ego to be told how good you smell, feel and look by others. Its very important to stay fresh, looking good and smelling clean and fresh all day.
Mother: Teach Your Pre-Teen About Makeup
During the pre-teen or tween stage, your daughter begins to become very aware of other girls or any females usage of makeup. She has seen you, her mother, her aunts, cousins and just about any older female using makeup. She is inquisitive. She wants to use it. And if you haven’t allowed her to be very open with you, she has been using it probably behind your back, at school and after she leaves home. Allow her the opportunity to use it under your guidance. Show her how to begin using lip gloss made for young females. Lip gloss with a flavor such as lemon, lemonade, cherry or any fruit flavor is perfect for little girls, pre-teens and ‘tweens.’ These lip glosses make tweens and pre-teens feel grown, gives their lips a luscious look while not giving them the older woman look. In addition, there are a few cheek blush tips that are perfect for the little ladies in your life. They can be used without adding any makeup to your daughter’s cheek guaranteeing your daughter will not have no damage to her complexion: period!
Father’s: Teach Your Little Princess How A Man Should Treat A ‘Princess’
No man should treat your daughter like anything other than a princess. Teach her what she should expect from a male. She is beautiful. She is a young girl growing up to become a young lady. She needs to know what to expect from a man. If you don’t teach her what to expect, then a man on the street will teach her. Do you really want to risk her being taught what to expect from a man or a person on the street? If you want your daughter, your most prized possession to know what to expect or to demand from the world, then you must teach her from birth what to expect from the world. Begin from the day she is born showing her what she should demand of the world. Teach her that you think she is beautiful. Do not allow anyone else to dictate to her anything else. Believe me, she will hold her head high and no one will be able to pull it down unless you allow it to be brought down.