Do you think your spouse is addicted to pornography? Would you like your spouse to overcome their interest in pornography? To help understand why your spouse may love to watch pornography and how you can help your spouse overcome their interest in pornography, I have interviewed therapist Marbi Gallaway.
Tell me a little bit about yourself.
“I have a Masters degree in Counseling, I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Licensed Substance Abuse Counselor, and co-owner of Enchantment Workshops. I have worked in the field of addictions since 1995.”
What do some spouses love to watch pornography on television or the Internet?
“Addiction is rooted in a double life and if the husband is a sex addict it is much easier to keep the secret alive through Internet pornography. If the husband is not a sex addict and there is the idea of a mutual agreement within the couple ship for mediums to enhance healthy sexuality then television might be the preference.”
What type of impact can pornography have on the marriage?
“When one partner male or female is a sex addict, sex becomes distorted and manipulative. The other partner tends to get into a co-sex addiction role and may go along with the manipulations and the distorted views based either in intense acting out, control or withdrawal or shutting down. In a healthy relationship when pornography is used at all it is somewhat minimal and mutually negotiated.”
How can someone help their spouse overcome their interest in pornography?
“The premise that relationships don’t take work is a misconception that many people have. This would be a good time to introduce work in therapy so the couple may look at the problems within the relationship. In my opinion couples counseling if there is a sex addict is imperative for the trust to be restored in the relationship and for the counselor to hold the addict accountable. Which is also helpful to the co-sex addict so they are not trying to figure out if the sex addict is being honest or not. Understanding the process of recovery gives the couple the focus and tools to work towards a healthy sexual relationship.”
What type of help is available for a spouse who is addicted to pornography?
“There are treatment centers that treat sex addiction, The Meadows, Pinegrove, and Sierra Tucson. The International Institute For Trauma and Addiction (IITAP) have a huge service for finding therapists who are certified in sex addiction. At Enchantment Workshops we do customized intensives with individuals, couples and families. There are 12 step programs available, SAA. SA and SLAA.”
Thank you Marbi for doing the interview on how someone can help their spouse overcome their interest in pornography. For more information on Marbi Gallaway or her work you can check out her website on enchantmentworkshops.com.
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