Regret can weigh down your heart like a ton of lead. If you are constantly reflecting on something or someone from your past, you will miss out on the only thing that is real – the present. Regret is when you recollect a past event with a feeling of loss and sorrow. Would it be logical to carry an umbrella around even after the storm is over? Of course not, and it is unhealthy to still be feeling pain after the wound of regret has healed. Move on, live your life, learn from your past and use it to build a more solid foundation for your future.
Do not dwell on your regrets, they have come and gone and have left hard-earned lessons. “Experience is a difficult teacher, one who often gives the test before the lesson.” We all make mistakes or do things that we look back on with disappointment, but a healthy individual will not become plagues by these unfortunate memories. If you want to overcome regret, you need to focus on the future instead of things you “would, could, and should” have done.
Instead of viewing those hard times as regrettable moments in your life, look at them as a teaching experiences. We are all like pencils, and on occasion we will go through a painful sharpening that only makes us better.
Maybe you regret not giving that boy in high school a second chance, or perhaps you regret not buying stock in that one company that really took off when everyone had their backs turned. Whatever you are regretting, it is now something that you have no more control over and therefore you shouldn’t waste time worrying about it. Enjoy what you do have and make the absolute most of it.
Suppose you regret not having dated that mysterious girl with the books in tenth grade, but you did find a woman to share your life with and are now married. Be thankful for her, don’t look back on that blurry past. Comparison is the demise of contentment, in a sense. If you are always cross-checking your past with the present, this may bring you down and cause you to ignore the things you are blessed to have.
There is an old saying that goes, “Idle time is the Devil’s playground,” and it applies directly to how well you will be able to manage your regret. Stay active, stay busy. Lead a full and meaningful life and keep the people who bring you joy the closest. Life is short, people are callous and the good times rarely last long enough. Wake up every day with optimism and good things will gravitate your way. Like attracts like, it’s no rocket-science.
If you are looking back on your regrets constantly, you may fall into a dreary state of mind. Make the most of your time to keep your mind from wandering down dark allies. If you keep your sights set on your life at present and the exciting future ahead, you will be able to overcome regrets and live a full and happy life. All it takes is some perseverance and a positive outlook!