A couple of years ago, when I was working in an international company, one of the guys in my office was cheating on his wife. Almost everybody in the office had figured it out, but the man’s wife, a lovely woman, was still completely oblivious. When a husband is cheating on his wife, most men will exhibit the same tell-tale signs, which is why all the man’s co-workers in my office knew what was going on. Once you know what the signs are, you’ll also know what to look for and will find it easier to discover if your husband is cheating on you.
Your Husband Suddenly Buys New Clothing – One of the first-tell tale signs your husband is cheating on you is if he suddenly buys a whole new wardrobe. The guy in my office, almost overnight, went from wearing average business suits to top designer business suits that were several hundred dollars a pop, and pairs of $300 shoes. From an average dressed guy, this guy suddenly looked like a top model – a warning sign to me he had just begun a new affair but to his wife no more than that he wanted to look ‘more professional’. As men, overall, don’t care that much how they look at work, if your husband begins to look like an international fashion model, start to search for other signs he’s cheating.
Your Husband Has New Credit Cards – If your husband applies for a gets new credit cards but he’s not using them when he’s with you, that’s a big sign he’s having an affair. If the charges were for his company, the company would likely issue him a new company credit card. But, if he’s telling you it’s for his job, but you never see the bill, there’s a pretty big chance he’s cheating on you – something you would know if you could see the bill with the hotel charges, restaurant dinners and gifts on it.
Your Husband Works Late Every Night – When the guy in my office began his affair, he went from being a family man who left on the dot of five o’clock every night to pick up his son from school to a guy who was ‘working late’ every night. When his wife complained, he told her a new project was going to be taking up all his time and he would be at the office late. Sure, in any business there can be a time where your husband has to work late. But, if he’s working late every night but not answering the phone in his office when you call, you husband may be cheating on you.
He Gets a New Cell Phone – If your husband is using two or three new cell phones and one of his reasons is he “needs them for his job”, that’s often a sign he’s cheating on you. Being able to answer one phone with phone calls from his wife, and another phone with phone calls from his mistress, makes it easier for him to keep the two women separate. I figured out the wife of the guy in my office had finally found out he was having an affair when his three cell phones were suddenly whittled down to just one, one she could keep an eye on them and monitor him.
Your Husband Begins To Take Business Trips – The guy in my office had hardly ever been away from his wife overnight in 25 years of marriage. Suddenly, his job required bi-weekly ‘business trips’ where he was going to be out of town for one to two days. If your husband has never had an overnight business trip in his life and he’s suddenly leaving every week, unless there have been major changes in his job description and responsibilities, or he’s been given a big promotion, you might want to do more digging to find out what these ‘business trips’ entail.
Your Husband Is Online Late at Night – If your husband is spending a lot of time on the internet early in the morning and late at night, checking emails and surfing the net, there’s a chance he’s communicating with someone online. Communicating via email is safer than by phone as no bells ring to say someone is calling and messages can be deleted as soon as they’re read. If you walk into his office and he immediately shuts down the computer or changes to a different screen, there’s a good chance he’s cheating on you. Either that, or he’s an international spy, and I doubt that very much.
Overall, if you notice things in your marriage changing abruptly, your husband is looking and behaving differently, you don’t see him as much and your sex life has changed, start to be suspicious. Of course, your husband may just be going through a mid-life crisis and things may get back to normal. But, if he’s cheating on you with another woman, it’s better to figure it out and do something about it now. Before it’s too late.