Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love. The emotional meaning of this saying Mildred B. Vermont is doubled in the case of a single mother since she gets undivided love from her child.
A single mom:
– has her own budget,
– does her own shopping
– plans her own schedules
– gets to take care of the baby
– meets to the demands of the baby by herself.
This may sound highly taxing, but believe me, it’s not as bad as it sounds. I am not a single mother. I am new mom who agrees that when a child is born a mother is also born. I am a jealous mother who has to share the fun of raising her baby along with her husband. Being a mom is simply complicated. It is pure joy to raise a kid and guess what? When you are a single mother you need not share the joy with anyone else. The lives of both the mom and child are woven together.
I raise my five month old boy in unison with my husband, I cannot deny the fact that when you have an infant at hand you do not deny the help of any hand. Believe me I know what it takes to maintain a house and raise a kid, but I do envy the single moms who I meet in the baby and me classes and my friends who get to care for their kid all by themselves.
First and foremost I have my hands full with my baby and the last thing that I want to do is to adjust the household timings of another person into my schedule. That too if it’s a person who has a lesser sense of time then forget it. Single moms get to plan their schedule and keep up to it (well in most cases unless you have a fussy baby or an unexpected code brown situation).
Then there is the part where “honey, you know what? It would be better if you can try calming him in the next room, its hard to hear the ballgame analysis”, it’s bad enough of him not getting up to help soothe the baby more so asking me to leave, these irritations don’t add up to your already wrecking nerves. Worse is the advise you get about stuff you feed the baby, on bathing, dressing, playing etc., and wait till the part where the relatives of your partner visit the baby to ‘help’ you.
Single moms not only get the undivided attention and love of their cute little bundle of joy but also get to raise them in their style, they need not wait for the approval of dads even in small things like deciding what to dress the little one up for Halloween.
I know it’s a great responsibility to care and provide for the child single handedly. It is an arduous task. But getting to claim undivided credit for the success of the child is priceless. I have seen single moms run hither and thither, doing this and that throughout the day wanting to finish off the days works, but at the end of the day they do get to enjoy a peaceful meal alone with the kid with the satisfaction the she has put all the food on table single handedly and enjoyed every moment doing so.
Single moms where once outcasts in the society, then they were pitied, and most friends stayed away from them keeping interactions to possible minimum in the mythical fear that she was desperately in need of help and was waiting to put the kid into the hands of others so that she could have a timeout. But in reality a mom, that too when a single parent would never trade her time with her kid for anything. She knows that she is filling in for both the parents and is proud that she is capable of doing it to her fullest potential.
A single mom may struggle to make ends meet but she knows that Her children need her presence more than her presents, and therefore is always there for them.A single dad is no less. He has to encounter all the woes and wah!s of the single mom. Yet a single dad is less popular than a single mom.
All said and done, getting to fondle, and care for and smile at and laugh with the child knowing that you are his one and only hero, whom he or she looks up with those innocent eyes filled with admiration beats the life out of having to see the same smile your baby has for you being shared with his dad or having to divide those wonderful fun filled moments with your partner.