Infertility is that little word no woman wants to hear. It is the inability to conceive. Yikes, I’m already breaking out in sweats. I hate the word infertility because it suggests I can’t get pregnant which isn’t true. Each woman can and should get pregnant. It just takes time to figure out what is wrong and then fix it. Don’t be afraid to study you body because you can control your own destiny.
Infertility Affects Couples Around the World
Trying to conceive is that one topic that gets women talking in the strangest places. Whether you know the other person isn’t really the issue because there is a common bond: infertility. You look at this stranger as if you know them, because you do.
You know the struggles, the pain and heartache that comes with infertility. You understand the doctor visits, the monthly crying sessions, and the heartache that comes every time you see a baby. You see, women dealing with infertility understand each other in a way that goes beyond the surface level. These women have endured and survived the most dreary of days and still persevere with the hope that they too will conceive.
As every woman works her way through the journey of infertility, she will hear many myths and old wives tales about getting pregnant. You know what I’m talking about. You are talking to one woman, before you know it, there are five women surrounding you telling you the “best fertility tips” on getting pregnant. Do they work or are they just myths?
Acupuncture has been used since the 1600s. Because there isn’t definite proof that it works, the question is whether it can and does help women trying to conceive. Each acupuncture treatment can last months but many women have seen positive results. I absolutely believe that acupuncture can assist when dealing with infertility.
A woman can only get pregnant one day in the cycle.
Because the sperm can live up to 4-5 days, a woman can actually get pregnant up to 4-5 days prior to ovulation. This means you don’t want to just focus on the ovulation day when trying to conceive. Start trying at leat 4-5 days before ovulation for best results.
Women ovulate more than once during cycle.
Totally untrue. Women will only ovulate once during their cycle so you better make each cycle count! You can have more than one egg release but you only ovulate once.
Women ovulate on the same day every month.
Totally untrue. Don’t we all wish it happened on the same day to make life easier? But it doesn’t so you better track your ovulation through an OV watch or some type of ovulation predictor.
Infertility isn’t a concern for older women.
Totally untrue. Times have changed and women are getting pregnant in their early and late 30 and 40’s. Remember when your mom said she wanted to have another baby and you were grossed out. Come on, mom, your in your late 30’s. Life has certainly changed. The truth is that fertility really begins to decline in your 20’s so by the time you’ve hit your prime, infertility could be an issue. This means women of all ages are concerned about infertility,whether you are younger or more in your prime.
Maybe you should adopt since you can’t get pregnant.
This myth is totally unfounded. Every woman can and should get pregnant. When something is prohibiting the couple from conceiving, it’s time to start ruling out issues. Take a wide approach at your body and began to study you body to know what is healthy, what is struggling, and what you can improve. Fertility foods can be used to keep your body healthy and promote fertility. Don’t be afraid to change your lifestyle as you prepare for conception. These changes will help you keep your chin up on those dark days to remind you that you are taking control of your own destiny: your fertility.
Stop trying and you’ll get pregnant.
This is a myth. For some women, this might have been the very thing that helped them get pregnant. Is it scientific or just nature having her way? There is no real answer. What we do know is if you take control of your fertility and really take care of your body and find the reason for infertility, you can raise your chances of getting pregnant. Whether you take a break or not, isn’t really the issue. For me, I’ve taken breaks more for myself than anything else. If you stop trying to get pregnant, make it about you and not the infertility. When you start back up, you will be rejuvenated and ready to start again!
Infertility is about the women.
This is a myth. Men can be affected by infertility just like women. That’s why both the man and woman should be tested.
Your doing something wrong.
Infertility is a medical issue and doesn’t have anything to do with a sexual issue or disorder. If you are consistently trying to get pregnant, without success, begin studying your body to know what is healthy and what needs extra boosts of fertility foods and fertility vitamins. You might also think about going to a infertility specialist in your area.
No matter how long you’ve tried to get pregnant, you’ve faced the uncertainties that come with infertility. Don’t be afraid to be emotional as emotions will be apart of this process. Stay connected with friends and family so you always know you aren’t alone. Most of all, remember that you and your spouse are in this together. Stress from infertility can become unbearable. Communicate and never go to bed angry. This has helped my husband and I throughout the infertility process and I’m sure it will help you as well!
The National Infertility Association/about.com