Many expectant parents have questions about sex during pregnancy. Is it safe? Will it hurt the baby? Will it rupture my uterus or make delivery easier or harder? Will sex induce labor?
These questions are perfectly normal, and your doctor has heard them all before, so don’t be shy about asking them. Your doctor is the best source of information, and their job is to only care for you during your pregnancy, but answer all your questions as well.
The information herein is simply a general guide, and not designed to replace your doctor’s advice. Additionally, this information may not apply to all pregnant women, so again, talk to your doctor.
For women with high-risk pregnancies, it is vital to discuss sex with your doctor. He/she will advise you based on any problems you’re experiencing and how safe they think it is for you to have sex while pregnant.
If you have a history of miscarriage or early labor, or experience vaginal bleeding during sex or have had a multiple birth in the past, be sure to pass this information on to your doctor. He may advise you to abstain completely from all sexual activity during pregnancy so as not put your unborn child at risk.
If the doctor has given the go-ahead for you to have sex during pregnancy, you still may ask if sex will harm the baby. Rest assured your baby will not be harmed at all. Comfortably protected by the uterus, your child is nestled safely in amniotic fluid. Your abdomen and stomach muscles also help protect your baby.
Always practice safe sex if you are not in a monogamous relationship, even during pregnancy.
There’s no need to become concerned if you feel your sexual desires change during pregnancy. Some women feel less of a desire for sex, and some feel more of a desire. You may even find that desires change, change again, and then change once more! Some women may feel self-conscious about their growing belly and may feel they don’t want their belly looked at. On the other hand, some women feel sexier and more desirable because of increased breast size. Again, perfectly normal.
You and your partner may also find that positions you enjoyed in the past may no longer be comfortable. Look at this as a great reason to experiment with new positions!
After pregnancy sex is a whole different category. Whether you deliver your child vaginally or via C-Section, your doctor will order that you abstain from sex for a period of time. This time is usually six weeks, but this will depend on your specific situation. Your body needs time to heal, and you and your partner need to give it that time.
After your doctor gives the go-ahead to have sex, you still may not be ready. Babies are notorious for robbing you of sleep. In addition to that, your body will take some time to get back to its pre-pregnancy shape and again, you may feel self-conscious about that. This, too, is completely normal and nothing to worry about. During this time frame, even when the doctor has given you the go-ahead, you and only you are going to know when you really feel ready to resume sex.
Talking to your doctor about myths you have heard, and asking every question, if the best route to take when it comes to sex during and after pregnancy. This is only one aspect of the overall care your doctor will provide for you during your pregnancy.