IS THE ONE NIGHT STAND ALL THAT BAD?
By the time a woman thinks about settling down, she’s usually had numerous sexual partners. Is that a problem for men? By the time a man is ready to settle down he also has probably had many different sexual partners. Today, men in general, realize they will probably not end up marrying that virgin from High School. They can accept that, in fact, they sometimes welcome it.
What may have been considered “slutty” at one time is oft-times not even looked at with a raised eyebrow today. Women have more perceived sexual freedom than they have ever had in our social history. It’s welcomed and is even prompted. Advertisements, billboards and even women’s magazines are alive with images that at one time would have made the publisher blush. The extreme visual bombardment of a woman’s sexuality has eroded, to some degree, the artificial walls of shame around how a woman can present herself.
Men like the image of the new woman. Though women are portrayed as sexual, voluptuous and alluring, they do so with a certain level of dignity. Aspects that could have, at one time, made a sensual pose seem “slutty” may not even exist on the public woman today. Things like smoking, tattoos or drinking beer could, at one time, all have negated any positive effects a striking pose or revealing clothing may have elicited. A little bit of “slut” can go a very long way if presented in just the proper manner.
Men want an attractive woman and sexual tends to be considered attractive. A wise woman can seem to have undressed in public and still be regarded professional. Her choice of just the right amount of reveal, but not too much, will have her target man dreaming of her in ways he shouldn’t even mention. Generally, the furthest thing from his mind is who she has been with over the past weeks or months. He is drawn to her today and he is interested today.
From the point a man makes his interest known and the woman of his affections has acknowledged his pursuit, he takes a more watchful stance. Anything previous to that instant means very little to today’s man. He is interested in the here and now and here after. The man may still want the provocative poses and actions because now he can see them as being performed for his personal enjoyment.
The freedom a man cares to give his woman should depend entirely upon the freedom he believes he should have; often, it does not. Once a man has marked his territory, so to speak, he expects to be the center of his woman’s attentions. There should be little to no more exhibitionist type of clothing, actions or attitudes. His woman should be free to be herself in all that she does as long as she always remembers to reserve herself exclusively for her man. Hopefully the man would do the same.
It is also easy for a woman to interest her selected man in a long-term relationship. She shouldn’t allow herself to be lured into the trap of making the man wait for sex thinking that will bring him into her fold. In today’s world, sex may be one of the first encounters a man and a woman have. Getting to know one another will come later, as the relationship grows. There is no reason to hang around and try to get to know someone who you have no opportunity of being intimate with though. The man, rather than wait and wait for that elusive night of ecstasy, may simply move on to another woman who he finds equally as attractive yet more generous with her favors.
Having sex on the first night out may seem like the perfect foundation for a one-night stand. You may expect the man to disappear the next morning or even that night and never call again. That isn’t how it always happens today. That very first encounter can be the one that secures the relationship. It really is possible to create a purely physical relationship and build upon that with an emotional one. Having the sexual part of your partnership out of the way only opens up the arena for everything else.
Never look at that potential one nightstand as a one-night stand; it doesn’t have to be. The woman does not have to wait for the man to call her any longer; she can call him and she can go visit him. Nothing is quite as intimate as a night of naked under the sheets. You have seen all and done all. There should be nothing more to frighten either one of you. Now comes the difficult part of finding out whom each one of you really is. You are a perfect physical fit, what about emotional?