From time to time, I hear men and women say that a relationship is always better in the beginning. I hear women say that their men were more aware of them physically and emotionally when first dating, while some men say that their women were more aware of themselves physically and emotionally. This can be contributed to the fact that some people, both male and female, put on their best behavior in order to impress their newly found companion. This is generally done to reach whatever intentions that each individual have in regards to the relationship, such as love, finances, sex, or any other possibilities that one may acquire from a relationship. It’s a natural thing. The question is, what do you do when the two of you mutually have love as your intentions, but the relationship seems dull or not as exciting as it was in the beginning? Here are a few pointers that might initiate that old spark.
One simple answer is to never stop treating that person like you did in the beginning. They key to this simple step is to have continuous flirtation throughout the day. Do you remember that cute “I miss you baby” text that you use to send in the beginning, well don’t just remember it, keep sending it. Shower your mate with an upgrade to the compliments that you gave in the beginning. Spend time role-playing as if you never met and you’re dating for the first time. It may sound silly, but you’ll be surprised by the results it could get you.
Do something unusual. This could be something that you’ve never done before. If you truly enjoy the person that you are with, step outside of the box and discover a boundary never crossed before. For instance, if you are a guy, but not the type of guy to send flowers to your woman’s job, go even above and beyond and send a private gift to her job filled with things that she enjoys. If you are a woman, but not the type of woman that wears make-up, surprise your man with a full makeover including attire that he has never or rarely sees you in regularly.
Last but not least, take short trips together once or twice a month. This could extend from a few days to a day or two. Go somewhere where you two can have private conversations not involving work or other stresses of life. Enjoy one another on a metal, spiritual, physical, and emotional level. In addition to this, play card or board games throughout the week as well as participate in outside activities. It’s enough that most of us have to stay on an unchanging nine to five work schedule, so it is important not to put your relationship on a schedule as well. There has to spontaneity in order to keep it exciting.