JOB LOSS AND HOW IT AFFECTS YOUR FAMILY
In today’s volatile employment climate it is not uncommon for even the most professional and stable individual to find himself or herself suddenly without a job; it can happen to any of us. The results can be overpowering, or they can be tolerable. Stop and think what the loss has done to you and your family before reacting.
LOSS OF INCOME: Of course, the most noticeable difference is the loss of income. Your family will have to adjust to a smaller payday, at least for a while. There are state and federal programs that will help you transition through this period though. Things may not be exactly as they were but they can be “tolerable.” On the flipside you have been given the opportunity to spend more time with your family. Perhaps even get to know them better. Take advantage of the time off and do things together. You may find yourself regretting the day you are finally gainfully employed once again.
LOSS OF BENEFITS: Another great loss will be the loss of insurance, vacations, paid holidays and all the other “perks” that come with working for a successful company. Look at your situation in a positive sense though. A program called COBRA generally supports insurance. This gives the displaced worker the opportunity to continue their insurance coverage at a reduced rate. You get the exact same coverage and you may be able to get it long enough to bridge the gap between jobs. As far as vacations, every day can now be considered a vacation, giving you the much needed extra time to finish those chores around the house or to step up your job search efforts.
LOSS OF SELF ESTEEM: Often, the individual who has just lost their job feels like it was something he or she must have done; they take the loss as a very personal failure. Don’t let your self get caught in this trap. Most generally, your loss is not of your own doing. Corporate downsizing, reorganization, elimination of your job; these all sound like Human Resource excuses but are very legitimate reasons for cutting positions. Accept the loss and research your opportunities. Your job is still out there, waiting for you.
LOSS OF ASSOCIATION: Without your job you may feel you have no one to talk to, to spend your days with. You have probably built some pretty sound relations at work and you will have little reason to continue the arrangement if you are not working at the same place any longer. Not true. If you indeed do have “friends” from work, continue your usual communication with them. I still have teams of employees who contact me periodically for Christmas parties, or birthdays or what have you. I may have lost the job but I didn’t lose my friends.
LOSS OF PURPOSE: Without a job what do you do with your time? What reason is there to get up, to get dressed and get going for the day? What good are you? Schedule your day the same as usual except for going to work. Continue to get up the same time you used to, and go to bed at the same time. Keep up your routine if for no other reason than to be ready when you do land that better position. Only now you will spend your time searching on the Internet, working around the house, getting to know your family, running errands, continuing your education and so on. Bring your day to a close the same as if you were still employed. You lost a job, not your life.
Losing a job is no picnic no matter how you look at it. Although I have been in the position where the pay was simply to good to make me leave a hideous position; it was a blessing to be let go. The key is to look at the loss not as a failure on your part but as a loss to your previous employer. You still have the same knowledge and expertise you had when you worked for them. You haven’t lost anything. You simply have to re-direct your efforts and find that company who is looking for you.