Previously published in Examiner
Part 2 of the joint of custody
In the state of California, one of the issues that must be submitted in court cases for joint custody rights, is the parental DNA test. California paternity testing is available through designated clinics throughout the states and some companies will actually come to your home to pick up the sample. Once the paternity test which California State requires is out of the way, men can exercise their rights as the father. Then the job of parenting and joint custody begins.
The bottom line is with or without a marriage contract if both parents were active in the child’s life before the breakup then they should be equally as active in their child’s life afterward. Similarly, if the child is yet to come into the world, the unwed father has a right to participate in that child’s life from the beginning, if he is willing to support the child and help provide a happy healthy childhood for the soon to be newborn as well.
To make this happen maturity is required by both biological parents. The child’s needs must always come first.
Simply guidelines to follow to maintain your child’s mental health.
The first rule to follow is don’t take spiteful or vengeful actions against the other parent at the expense of the child.Do not use your child as a bargaining chip, for example if the mother does not get the exact amount of child support she is asking for; she refuses to let the child go see the father.
Do not make unfounded excuses for why the child cannot go back to the other parent’s home when it is that parent’s turn. By the same token to not pull the child away from viewing a ball game with the other parent because it is your turn to take over.
To be continued
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