My fiance is fond of calling me up out of nowhere on his way home from work and saying, “Hey pretty lady, I was wondering if you had any plans for the night? Want to go out on a date?” To which I normally respond with, “Hmm…I don’t know. My fiance may get upset.” and he says, “Wow- he must be a lucky guy, I wish I was your fiance” and we giggle and banter back and forth until he gets home, gifting me with my favorite candy bar and sweeping me off my feet to take me out somewhere.
He doesn’t care that I’m in a sweatshirt and haven’t put a stitch of makeup on- it’s the spontaneity of the whole thing that keeps our relationship new and fun. He’ll even knock on the door so I’ll answer it like when we were dating. It’s cute and fun. Then we go off somewhere, just the two of us, bowling or just driving around town. Some days he’ll pack up sleeping bags and camping gear in advance and surprise me with a trip to the mountains for a few days, claiming we’re going to Wal-Mart for groceries. I never know what to expect when he surprises me with a date, and that’s where all the fun is.
The key to keeping a relationship alive is to never get “settled” into the day-to-day routine of waking up, going to work, coming home, making dinner, watching TV, going to bed. Sure, it’s nice to have that routine and feel comfortable with life, but that joy of just going somewhere fun out of nowhere keeps that “dating” feeling alive, even if you’ve been together for years.
Even when you have kids you can plan something spontaneous, so long as you don’t tell your spouse about it. Call a friend or the sitter, have the kids all taken care of, and surprise your honey with a trip into town, claiming you’re going to go pay bills or something. They won’t catch on until you pull into their favorite restaurant or the skating rink that you’re actually going out on a…date! How fun is that?
We’ve got 4 kids that we share with his ex-wife, so we surprise the kids with “dates” too- taking them to a water park when they think they’re going into town, or taking them bowling on the way to visit their grandma. They love it, too, and it keeps the whole family alive. Nobody ever knows what to expect when it comes to a simple trip into town.
Even an actual grocery shopping routine trip often turns into a spontaneous outing- my guy will veer off to my favorite ice cream shop for a huckleberry cheesecake cone to share on our way home, and you’d think I’d learn to expect these fun little outings, but I don’t. Often, we can leave the house to go pay bills at 6 in the afternoon, and tooley around until midnight, just having fun. It’s what keeps the relationship fresh, appreciated, and certainly fun.
Try it- you can take your whole family out on a surprise “date”- it’s an awesome way to get out of that routine!