Planning your engagement is a very emotional time; for better and for worse. Your engagement period is one of the happiest and one of the most stressful times of your life, as you are flooded with what often feels like a million different emotions concerning everything from the love you feel from your fiance to the stress of making sure every detail is perfect. Keeping a diary to chronicle the many things you feel and thoughts you have during your engagement can be extremely therapeutic and can serve as a keepsake you can read back over years after you are married.
When keeping a diary during your engagement, it is essential that you write in it at least a few times a week. Writing on a regular basis will leave you with a more accurate portrayal of how you felt during your engagement period. Record everything that comes to mind, from the way you felt that particular day to what you did. You can record events such as trying on dresses, meeting with caterers and visiting venues, as well as ideas you have relating to your wedding. Your diary can serve as a place you collect photos of dresses you are interested in, floral arrangements you find visually appealing or ideas that your get regarding decorations, songs and other elements of your wedding.
On days that you feel particularly strong emotions, it is even more essential that you write in your journal. The stronger your emotions, the more you will want to remember them. Even if you are feeling angry or stressed out, writing it down is important. This way you can deal with your emotions in a more productive way and will be less likely to take out your anger and frustration on your fiance or bridal party.
You may even want to get your fiance involved in your diary keeping, as this is a special time in his life as well. While he may not have interest in writing in it regularly, think of prompt questions to have him respond to in the journal. For example, one prompt could be “What are you most excited about in our future together?” and both of you could respond accordingly. This way your diary is also a bonding experience that both of you can reflect on after the wedding.
Your engagement diary is exactly that, yours. There are no rules regarding how to keep it or what to write in its pages. Be creative and honest in your journal, and try your best to commit to keeping it going throughout the entire course of your engagement. The earlier you start it during your engagement period, the better.