Have you ever been walking down a sidewalk next to a school or a park and saw children playing and talking, things that every child does? You smile and reminisce about your younger days and doing the exact same thing. You’re enjoying the innocence that comes with having no responsibilities or worries and your only concern is whether or not you’ll have to stop playing to use the bathroom.
Then, suddenly you’re smacked back into reality by an invisible board because you just heard a foul four letter word coming out of the mouths of babes. You think to yourself “Did that child just drop the “F” bomb?” You shake it off and chalk it up to old age and hearing loss, but then another word follows, and another. Your eyebrows furrow and a wrinkled up frown magically appears on your face. A disgusted feeling comes over you and all you want to do is locate the closest bar of soap.
According to Time Newsfeed there is an increased amount of children that start using curse words as early as two years old. It also says that the adults are to blame. Which in my opinion is probably the truth? Kids are human tape recorders. They repeat and mimic the role models in their lives whether it is their parents, friends, and any media they are subjected to.
As adults and parents we tend to forget that we might have little ears within listening distance when having a discussion with another adult. Our mouths sometimes get carried away from us whether we are discussing a bad day at work, having an argument, or even something as silly as getting riled up during a football game on TV.
What we find acceptable behavior in adults is far from acceptable in our children. When children start using profanity at a very young age we sometimes react differently then we should. It’s funny; it’s cute to see a two year old cuss at his toy truck. But by laughing or showing a positive reaction or any reaction could make the child believe that he is being rewarded and getting attention for such behavior. Therefore he or she will likely use it again to get the same feed back. In an article I read on Love To Know it suggested that we adults should stop the cussing before it becomes a problem. A parent who cusses not only needs to alter the child’s behavior but alter their own as well. After all, if a child doesn’t hear it, they can’t repeat it.
An adolescent that cusses, though it may not be the fault of the parent is in general viewed as a reflection of the parents by the public. For example: I had witnessed two nine year olds walking down the street talking. Every other word out of their mouths was profane. I was shocked and disturbed by this. Immediately I jumped to the conclusion that they must be learning these words from home, therefore it would probably not do any good to have a discussion with them about respect or even talk to their parents. I had already labeled these kids trouble makers. We as parents think that our children would NEVER talk like that, when in fact we don’t really know. What if their mouths do shift into over drive when they aren’t being supervised? The only way we can determine we are doing the best we can with our children is to set a good example. Monitor your language, monitor their friends, monitor their TV, and video games. If you can keep a pretty close eye on these things then you will have a good fighting chance that your child might opt out of bad habits and make better choices.
Sources: Time News Feed – Kids Swearing Earlier Than Ever – By Allie Townsend
Love To Know – Kids Cussing – By Amy Hoover