You may find that sometimes communicating with children can be a difficult thing to do. But they cannot completely be blamed for the difficulty of communication. While you may feel like they are not listening to you, they are feeling the same way about you. There can be better communication through listening. Your child’s feelings and opinions are just as important as yours, and it is important that they feel that way. Listening to children and talking openly and honestly is essential to good communication.
Sometimes, we as adults may react rather than respond, and use our own feelings to do so. But we need take the feelings of the children into consideration and allow them to express themselves without feeling like they will be yelled at for it. If we only react with our own feelings in mind, then children may feel as if their own feelings are not important. Is that really the kind of message we want to send to children?
Listening to children is important when making them feel as though their thoughts, views, opinions, and feelings are just as important as our own. Instead of reacting with our own feelings and experiences in mind, ask the child questions. Ask them why they feel a certain way and allow them to tell you without an arguments. This way, you can understand how they are feeling and why they are feeling that way. This will cause your child to appreciate you asking about their feelings, and encourage them to communicate more with you. You can also work together to solve whatever problem that may be present.
In situations where communication is important, you need to give your child your full and undivided attention, and make eye contact. Do not do anything else, such as watching television or surfing the internet, while you are listening to your child. Remain calm, show an interest in what your child is saying, and try to help them out. This way, you can figure out what is going on, if it needs to be fixed, and how to do so. In addition, this will show your child that you are listening to what they have to say.
When listening to children, do not discourage them from feeling angry, upset, or similar feelings. This of course, may be a natural instinct for us. But this could be followed by them bottling their feelings up or becoming even more upset. Instead of steering them away from these feelings, find out what is going on. Ask them why they are feeling that way and see what you can do to help make them feel better.
Children are not any different than adults. They have their feelings and opinions, and they may experience difficult or unhappy situations from time to time. But instead of becoming angry or annoyed when they come to talk to you about it, listen to them and figure out how you can help them. Listening to children reminds them that you do care and that their thoughts and feelings are important.