Love is something that seems to conquer all, everything that is with the exception of distance. Long distance relationships are something that has had much controversy on whether or not they can actually work. For some this is something that is very capable, while others choose relationships that are more close range. But the question still remains, can a relationship with distance be maintained, and if so how? Here I will describe both sides of the argument; those who do not believe they can work and those who feel they can.
Why they could fail
One of the main reasons we as people enter into relationships is because we want some other person who will stick with us through thick and thin and keep us from that ache of loneliness. Long distance relationships mean that you are going to be physically alone for long periods of time.
Some may argue that in a long distance relationship a couple cannot become as close as they would if they were actually together. They may also argue that it is hard to support another person emotionally, financially, and securely when they are not physically there.
To make this argument simply clear, there is no form of communication that can be compared to the actuality of physically spending time with another person, and therefore, could stump the growth of a relationship.
Why they could work
While long distance relationships have their setbacks on a physical level, many can argue that a couple can grow in a way that they wouldn’t if they were physically with one another every day. For example, since the relationship is heavily dependent upon communication, this is one aspect of the relationship that is relatively strong compared to other relationships that require a couple to see each other on a daily basis. Since the communication is strong, this also takes dependability off of other aspects of the relationship such as sex.
Many couples are unknowingly in much of a physical relationship. As a matter of fact, many relationships are so heavily dependent on the physical aspects of it that they would very much fail if a couple is apart from one another.
While there is much negativity associated with a long distance relationship, those who can endure it can also reap the positive benefits of such an engagement.
Keeping the balance in a long distance relationship
Whether a long distance relationship can survive or not depends heavily on the people involved in the relationship. There are certain traits that each person must possess in order for the distance relationship to have a fighting chance. These traits include:
Patience Being apart from your significant other means there will be lots and lots of waiting. Since one will be counting the days until the next encounter with each other, patience is definitely a virtue here.
Maturity If you have a mentality that revolves around nothing but yourself and you are just out to have a good time then a long distance relationship is probably not for you. One must be at a reasonable maturity level in order to sustain this type of relationship.
Must value the worth of the relationship This is important because one wants to make sure that they care enough about this person to put themselves through something so difficult. If they do not, then obviously it is just easier to drop the relationship altogether.
Does not depend too heavily on the physical aspects of a relationship If you are the type of person that needs to have someone by their side at all times of the day than you may just go crazy in a long distance relationship. A person who is focused on the other important things about a person aside from the physical things has a fighting chance.
Must be on the same page as their significant other This is probably the most important trait one must have to sustain a long distance relationship. If your significant other is planning on cheating on you as soon as they step out the door and you plan on staying faithful then of course this will not work. It is important to talk about each other’s perspectives on what the distance could do for and to the relationship before making a decision.
While long distance relationships are a hardship that couples must face in order for the relationship to succeed, keep in mind that no relationship is easy, the issues are just different. So if you feel strongly for someone who is leaving you for a while and they feel the same way, then why not give it a try. You never know, a long distance relationship may be not so bad after all. J