Moving in with your significant other isn’t a decision that should be taken lightly. We have all seen people jump head first into relationships and move too fast. Most of the time, jumping the gun and moving in together isn’t a good idea but if you consider all of the angles and are in a happy relationship, moving in together might be the next step.
First of all, your conflict level should be assessed before even thinking about moving in. How well do the two of you deal with conflict? Do you find yourselves in heated arguments that end it yelling, name calling or violent behavior? If that is the case, moving in together will only make matters worse. However, if you find that you and your partner are able to talk through your problems and come to a common solution without harsh arguments, that’s great! Moving in together may be a good idea for the two of you.
Obviously, it should be taken into account how long you have been with that person and how well you actually know them. I mean, come on, two weeks isn’t enough time to get to know somebody. You should be sure that you truly know the person. That means that you know all of the things that bothers them, makes them happy, their goals, their day to day life and general information about their past. That is important because, when you move in together, you will begin to notice things about the person that you wouldn’t have known before. If you don’t agree with their choices, moving in with them will not help you see eye to eye. Also, make sure they know a lot about you. Be sure that they value your personal beliefs and respect you as a person.
Ideas about the future should be discussed before moving in together. Some people tend to be less serious about a relationship than they put on. Make sure that you both have similar ideas for the future. You should talk about things like, “Where is our relationship going?”, “Are we sure that we want to take this next step?”, “Do you see yourself with that person for a long amount of time?”, and “Are we ready to make that type of commitment to each other?”. You should consider that when living together, there should be an equal amount of responsibility. Talk about dividing bills. The last thing you want is to move in with somebody and find yourself being the soul supporter, unless you are ready for that.
Don’t be pushy. If it is meant to be, it will happen. Don’t start pressuring the person you are with to move in together if they are clearly not ready. It’s a big step. Also, don’t think that by moving in with each other that the relationship will get better. It might, but it most cases it just adds more strain to the relationship. If you get along well, have common ideas for the future and both of you are considering the possibility, then talk about it. There is nothing worse than a lack of communication in a relationship. Voice your concerns to your partner. Don’t jump in blind and be sure that it is something that both of you really, really want to do.