My experience with infertility has been a long and bumpy road. It has been in-lay with different types of problems than most people face and a big part of that has to do with Mirena, which as far as I’m concerned is the butt of the problem. We have one daughter, and although she was extremely easy to conceive, we have had problems every since. My story begins almost 5 years ago in January of 2006.
After already being together going on a year with using absolutely no form of birth control other than keeping up with Mother Nature, we decided to go back to college and start our lives together. We decided birth control was a good option for us so that we could wait longer to have a baby. We knew we had played with fire, but I always kept up with when I should ovulate and based that on when we were safe, which worked for a year.
I went on the pill in January of 2006 and immediately changed. I became moody, my periods were out of whack, I gained weight, I felt sick a lot, and it was just horrible to feel this way when I was use to my 100% on target periods and no issues other than bad cramps before the pill. I stayed on the pill however and eventually the side effects lessened some, I began loosing weight and got the smallest that I have ever been at a size 6. I was working outside so I felt good we were doing great. Then in July I became ill, I had the flu for a week, then our anniversary came along, and the week after that he had the flu as well.
The next month I only spotted but knew something was wrong because all I could eat was chicken. I figured it was lasting effects of the flu and being outside 5 days a week in the sun, so I just began drinking more and eating what I could. Because I was on birth control pills, I never thought of pregnancy as the culprit. After two accidents on the river where I worked (one of which I fell on my stomach and bruised myself very badly, and the other when floating a smaller river with family and hitting my stomach on a rock) I then assumed that the stomach pains and cramps where just me healing. I was wrong, and going on 10 weeks pregnant with our daughter when we finally found out, which just happened to be the next day after our big move to our apartment 100 miles from home.
I had conceived on our anniversary and Aeris was born on my birthday the following May after 39 hours of labor and a c-section. We were still in college and had moved in with my in-laws because of a difficult stretch with illness that put me in the bed for a while. After Aeris was born I lost back down to my pre-pregnancy weight and felt great, for a whopping 2 weeks. At 6 weeks I had Mirena implanted, and the problems got even worse. Back pain began, knots began forming all over my body that were sore and would ache. After almost a year of pain I finally got my answer, fibro-myalgia. I still thought that Mirena had something to do with the issues because they got so much worse after I had it put in. I began gaining weight and having abdominal pain. I got angry easily and felt depressed. After a suspected miscarriage with Mirena still in place, the doctor wanted me to keep it in and said that there was no way to prove the miscarriage since it had already occurred. I kept Mirena in until Dec of 2008, and then a friend paid to have it removed. This is when my fertility issues began.
My periods were irregular and I would go anywhere from 1-4 months with no period. My fibro continued to get worse and we were told that we should try and have another baby then, instead of waiting because it may only get worse with time. They worried that the fibro would get so bad that it may disable me. We talked it over and decided to just let nature take its course. After a year of no success I finally went to the doctor in February of 2010. The doctor put me on birth control again, after finding cysts on both ovaries. I was pregnant again by March, but the pregnancy ended at 4 weeks with a miscarriage. The miscarriage was dubbed natural and I then went on to conceive again in June of 2010, only to have a chemical pregnancy. In September 2010 after a second chemical pregnancy I decided to talk to the doctor again. We found out that Mirena had caused some scar tissue and the eggs where having trouble implanting.
I have still not had success in conceiving but the heartbreak with the trying and pregnancy loss has taken its toll. We have currently taken a break and have once again decided to let nature run its course. I try to think about our daughter and how lucky we are to have her, but seeing other babies always brings the pain back. Infertility is something I never thought I would have to deal with this early in life. We see babies and pregnancy all around us and each time it brings the pain to the surface. Some of us can afford fertility treatments, while others try herbal remedies like vitex. The best advice I can give is not to give up. Take breaks, continue talking, be spontaneous, don’t plan too much, let nature take its course, and most importantly of all try to keep from getting stressed out.