In general I am not a big New Year’s resolutions fan, but I am a big goal setter. While a new year can be a great time for a fresh start and to set goals, every second is a new second and gi ves th e opportunity to change and improve. My resolutions are a continuation of other goals for myself that I constantly set and evaluate. I imagine I will not be perfect simply because it is a new year, but I hope that as I improve little by little I will be a better parent then when I began.
Personal Parenting Goal #1- Be In The Moment
I want to be fully involved in the moment as it happens. Part of having kids is not just the good times but also the baby-is-hungry-the-dog-is-barking-someone-knocked-on-the-door-and-the-toddler-just-tripped-on-a-toy-and-is-crying times as well. I hope to recognize that the crazy moments are just as important and valuable and instead of stressing out about what should have happened, or might happen, just recognize life IS happening.
Personal Parenting Goal #2 Find the Joy In The Moment
After recognizing that life is NOW (not then, not later) , I deserve to enjoy my life and my kids. Even the crazy moments have joy in them. I have a hard time getting food ready for the kids because they either pull out every toy in the house or want to come into the kitchen and empty the cupboards. I can choose to get mad, or I can choose to be excited about how energetic and vibrant, active, and creative my children are.
Personal Parenting Goal #3 Be Proactive
If I am accomplishing my first two go als, I should have a good idea of what happens right before the crazy moments and what is going to happe n during the cra zy moments. If I am proactive, I can plan ahead. If I know dinner is busy, I can start preparing food during nap time or plan dinner ideas that include the kids in preparing dinner.
Personal Parenting Goal #4 Be Honest
Kids know when they are being told a lie and they can tell when someone is only telling a partial truth. I need to be honest with my children even when it may seem easier to fudge. If I am so tired that I can’t keep my eyes open to read another story I need to say , “I am tired, I need to rest.” If I try to tell my children that they are tired or should sleep when they are not, they know I am not being truthful. It is better to be upfront about the situation.
Personal Parenting Goal #5 Say I’m Sorry
I am not perfect. My children deserve an apology when I have made a mistake. When I let them down, and am not the loving, caring parent I want to be, th ey need to hear me acknowledge my weaknesses and I need to do my best to do even better.
As I apply these five goals to my parenting, I hope to be a more caring and considerate parent. I hope to enjoy ALL of my job as mother and find joy in things I haven’t thought about enjoying before. I hope to be an example to my children of how to be honest, be human, and work to be an even better person.