Many men will tell you they are never getting married, never having children, never settling down. I was one of those men. Unlike most of them I managed to keep this promise to myself until the age of forty. Many women who will read that would say how pathetic, or he was probably a loser who didn’t have much success with women.
I, on the other hand, was a man who was admired by other men for the amount of women who liked me. Men could also appreciate the schedule I kept. Most of my days started at 6AM and ended at 2AM the next morning. I held two jobs, one which surrounded me with women, and often spent my weekends working on a racecar in a very well known national series. In the eyes of my male friends I had it all.
Everything changed the day I met Amy. She was, and still is the most beautiful woman I have ever known. Her long dark hair mesmerizes me. Her green eyes saw the good in me. Her bright white smile can melt me in a minute. The first time she put her head on my shoulder I was hers. She was the smartest person I had ever met, with an Ivy League degree to back it up. She was everything I didn’t know I was looking for in a woman.
I knew I was going to have to make some big changes in my life to be with her. I had no idea how many, however, and how easy the choices would be when it came to my lifestyle as it was, or what it would have to become to be with her. I changed my friends, left two jobs, and even eventually became a father.
No woman that really cares about you wants you around a lot of other women. I had a job many men would kill for. I got paid to be surrounded by half-dressed women. I flirted with them and often they flirted back. There was never anything serious, and I knew none of them were women I would ever want to spend a week with, let alone a lifetime. I gave the owner the bad news and said goodbye to all the girls forever.
Many of my friends were single too, and the ones that weren’t acted like it. The more time I spent with Amy, the more grief I got from them. I was their leader in many ways. I decided where we would go on most nights, what we would do. I was also older and knew what spots were hot and when. The resentment was huge. They could not understand my desire to spend my time with her rather than them. I moved on to a different group of friends, they were called couples.
Six months into our relationship we decided to have a baby. I had always loved children, but they were my nieces and nephews, not mine. She convinced me that we were only getting older, and the longer we waited the harder it might be. Within a year we had our beautiful son. She had given me the greatest gift anyone could ever give me. My life was changed forever, for the better.
Two years later, she decided she would like to further her career and become a lawyer. The best possible choice of college for her made it impossible to continue living where we did. Where we had to live for her to go to school, meant I would have to leave my primary job. I had held the job for over twenty years. We packed up and made the move, and I left my job. What I discovered was I hated where I had been living and I had probably been at my previous job fifteen years too long.
We are enjoying our new life. She is still in school and doing great. Our son is incredible. I could of never imagined five years ago this would be my life today, and I have one person to thank for it. Amy, who still looks as beautiful if not more so than the day I met her. Amy, who is still the smartest person I know, and only getting smarter. Her birthday, most years, falls on Thanksgiving, how appropriate. I give thanks every day I wake up to the beautiful and wonderful new life I have, one I didn’t even know I wanted. Amy knew, told you she was smart, you’re just gonna have to trust me when I tell you how beautiful she is. I’m not sharing, find your own, you’ll be glad you did.