Welcome back! I appreciate your support in my battle against negativity and efforts to be more positive. Special thanks to those who have left me encouraging comments or promoted my work by sharing the link to this or one of the previous days’ articles. It’s time to share the lessons learned from day eleven of my negativity diet. I hope you’re enjoying my journey to a more positive and optimistic life. If you missed Day 1, you can read all about it here and links to all the days in between can be found on my Associated Content profile.
This actually happened a few days ago but is still ongoing so I thought I’d share. First a little background. We have two wonderful cat companion pets who are probably more like children to us than pets. They are definitely coddled and loved. My husband’s cat is an elderly cat from Japan who is a bit overweight (12 lbs) and my cat is a rescued feral cat who’s slim (7 lbs) and active. Over the past few months I’d noticed that my little cat’s ears were losing fur and seemed to have bite marks on them. I’d assumed that the older cat was fighting with her and tried to be on the lookout for the behavior so I could modify it. The thing is that I found no other evidence as to why this was happening. So one night I’m sitting on the couch with my little cat cuddled beside me when suddenly she starts ferociously scratching and clawing her ears. I was so surprised that it took me a bit of time to stop her and when I did her little ears were bleeding. I was so saddened by this that I cried. Her poor little ears!
Apparently my negative assumption that the older, heavier cat was abusing my little cat was unfounded. My baby was hurting her own self. I examined her ears and saw no signs of bugs, infection, rash or other explanation. Her ears don’t even seem dry. The next day I called the vet but they have yet to return my call. Every time I see her poor little scabbed up ears or hear her scratch (I snap my fingers and she stops, but it doesn’t take long for her to open up the wounds) it saddens me. This isn’t being positive but I don’t think that compassion is a bad thing, so I’m not fighting it. I am, however, taking positive steps to change the situation. Her little wounds are covered in antibiotic gel, she’s slowly being trained to stop and I’m going to call the vet again tomorrow (it’s Sunday and they aren’t open). When something saddens me it helps to do whatever I can to improve the situation. Another lesson learned from this situation is to not jump to negative conclusions but instead investigate the situation before making negative assumptions.
Shopping at my favorite beauty store was fun and quick (I had a list and was ready to check out in less than five minutes). Unfortunately, checking out took more than 30 minutes and definitely tried my patience and tested my desire to remain positive and eschew negativity. Although I only had four items the clerks (three different ones tried to process my order) seemed mystified as to how to ensure I had the correct prices and get my frequent shopper points credited (have I mentioned yet that I love makeup?). The order was rung up and refunded multiple times. Normally I’d have thrown in the towel at the third transaction or so. But the ladies were trying very hard and I’m pretty sure it was the computer system and not their efforts that caused the trouble. I wish I could say that I stayed cheerful the entire time but I know I was thinking some less than positive thoughts about the delay and inconvenience to my husband (he was waiting in a nearby bookstore). I think I might have even grumbled a few of those thoughts out loud. But then I reminded myself what a great bargain I was getting, that it was my choice to wait and they would surely have the situation in hand soon (and if they didn’t, it was also perfectly fine for me to decide to cancel the transaction as long as I did so in a kind and positive way). I reminded my self that my husband enjoys the bookstore and had given my ample time, so it wasn’t really inconveniencing him and my positive attitude returned. The manager who ended up getting my transaction to process correctly was kind and we even exchanged beauty tips while waiting on things to compute.
Today I’m focusing on Philippians 4:5 (NIV) “Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.” It’s wonderful to meditate on the thought that the Lord is near. He’s always there with us. He loves us with an unending love. I may not have succeeded 100% today but I am getting closer to where He (and I) wants me to be. He is near and He will help me. What a joyful, positive thought!
Thank you for joining me on my journey to reduce negativity and increase optimism. I wish you abundant optimism, joy and positive thinking.