I really do not know where this queasy feeling for lawyers came from or where I contact this illness but I know I have it. I sometimes think that it is from watching so many claim that they can fix our government only to get there and forget from whence they came. I sometimes think that it is because for some reason or another when a poor person like me step into their office, I’m treated as if I was part of the janitorial staff. As I have said before, even though this same group has pretended all these years to be the only ones capable of fixing our penal system, has done little in that regards so far.
All of those thoughts sometimes come to mind but there has always been one constant thought about why I feel so disappointed in lawyers and it can be found in the situation involving my sister, my nephew and his daughter.
My nephew, even though he is far from the man that I know he could be, had a child with this young lady who once decided to allow her cousin custody of his daughter saying that she was doing it to clear the way for her to join the military. When my nephew found out about this, he and his mother decided that he would try and get custody of his daughter. They did what they thought was best and sought the assistance of a lawyer. He being the biological father of this child, one would think that it couldn’t be that difficult but one would be wrong.
It first started out with lies being told about his parenting skills, though minimal, all those were investigated by the Department of Children and Family Services and determined to be unfounded. There were injuries that his daughter sustained which were said to be from him but turned out to be a lie, but the most terrifying thing was to see the reaction of his daughter when it came time to return her to the biological mother’s cousin house. The child would kick and scream pleading with my sister not to take her back. When she got there she would sometimes refuse to get out of the car.
All this and I could not understand how people, who claim to be for the welfare of the child, could not give that child the peace that she deserved. I figured that having the case removed from Family Court only served one purpose and that was to allow the lawyers plenty of delay time between court appearances and thereby allowing them to bill more for their services. The biological mother had stepped away from the proceedings but never did join the military. It was also revealed that she had relinquished at least three other children in that same fashion without intervention from the other fathers. All these years and months since they first began this journey, nothing has been settled and now the mother is back and the case is being re-heard in Family Court again.
There may be more to this story that I am aware but even if so, that little child did not create any of it and should not be forced to have to endure it. She needs to have stability in her young life and not have to worry about where she will be waking up in the morning. Life is tough enough and at her stage of development, she nee not has to go through this right now. The lawyers on all sides may be able to look themselves in the eyes and say that they were doing there jobs but how much money is your soul worth if it conflicts with the well-being of a child?