Many men while searching the Russian dating sites tend to forget about the women’s bad experiences in Russian dating, we always hear about how the guy was scammed, but often a woman falls foul of a western man. A typical scenario. A gentleman signs up for a Russian dating site. He searches for a beautiful women like all men do, many on the assumption that every women in Russia is desperate to marry any foreign guy to escape the poverty stricken life she leads. He gets attracted to a lady and they start communicating, maybe for a week, maybe a few weeks or months by this time the gentleman may have decided this lady is the one for him, he decides to tell the lady he wants to meet her and is ready for marriage to her. For whatever reason, the lady is not ready to take such an important step. The gentleman, shocked and angry that she is not willing to go along with his plans, calls the lady a scammer and claims she was never serious about him. This is a common scenario for many Russian women seeking a foreign husband; often the gentleman will call her a scammer and even submit her details to scammer sites and black list sites. This women will then find her name published all over the internet as a scammer. Do you think this is a fair reaction for a women to bear?
Most gentleman are perfectly happy to spend money on flowers , restaurants, movies and dating site fees to find a suitable traditional partner on a local dating site, however when it comes to a Russian dating site some men do not hesitate to label the women on Russian dating sites as scammers. Why? Because of misperceptions about the so-called “mail order bride” industry. Many gentlemen feel, whether they admit it or not, that ladies on Russian dating sites owe them something for membership fees and chat costs. Many gentlemen still live in the past and are still under the impression all Russian ladies on Russian dating sites are easy to buy, and just spending a few dollars on flowers and gifts will guarantee that women wanting to leave her country for a happy life with you.
Well this may come as a shock to many gentlemen, Russia is no long a communist country, many women have good jobs and careers , they are not willing to just uproot and leave their home country with the first guy that comes along throwing a few dollars at them.
As for membership fees gentlemen pay to join Russian dating sites, these fees in no way guarantee that any man can choose any women he wishes , these women are not slaves and not desperate. A man needs to win the women’s heart just like in any other dating site and will have to court her just like any man would with a local women, Russian women are no different. Even then there are no guarantees. But if you do succeed in winning a Russian women heart you are likely to be a very happy man.