Last night was incredible. I don’t think I’ve ever felt closer to her. But this morning? Did I really agree with her that it’s time we have a baby? A baby?! The morning started off great, a continuation of last night really. Then she said it. “I think we should have a baby” OK, we’ve been together a while, everything is going well, but a baby? I knew this day was coming. I have been thinking about it myself for some time, but a baby! As soon as she said it I knew I had very little time to react.
The look on her face, the excitement in her voice, it was like the day she said we should go apple picking multiplied by a million. What a horror that day turned out to be when I hesitated with my reply. “You don’t really want to go, I can hear it in your voice” The cold shoulder that day, that week, was like living in Siberia. This was much bigger. A baby? “I would love to have a baby with you” Did I just say that? I just agreed we should have a baby. Me, the guy who can barely take care of himself, is going to have a baby! I’m not ready. We’re not ready. Do you know how much money a baby costs? How much time? We’re not ready!
I’m here to tell you you’re right. You are not ready for a baby. No one really is, ever. And if you are reading this and are one of those couples that have agreed to have a baby, but are waiting for the right time, I’m here to tell you, there is never a right time. A baby is a great unknown, no one really knows how much it costs, so waiting until your financially able is pointless. A baby costs what you want it to cost, you can buy just the essentials, or you can buy everything. A baby is helpless, and needs lots of time, but will you have help? You don’t know, and won’t until the baby is actually here.
Now, relax, this is the fun part, making the baby. I’m here to tell you this is probably, including certain times during the pregnancy, the time in your life when your gonna have more sex than ever. Also, don’t think for a minute she’s gonna get pregnant right away. Enjoy this time, if it’s any help you’ve probably got close to a year, from this point, until the baby is here. I’m not saying the worries go away. You’re always going to think about the money, the diaper changing, the lost freedom of being able to do what you want, when you want.
I am a father who probably confronted more problems, concerning the birth of my first child, than you will ever have to deal with, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. We as a couple, dealt with miscarriages, no health insurance, and a total lack of support from family and friends. I, personally, had a lifestyle, and career I agreed to give up, in order to give my child a good life. I was a strip club manager. The benefits were great, but not for raising a family. So as you think about how unready you are to have a baby think about this. You probably won’t have to give up a job where you are surrounded by naked women all night. You most likely have health insurance. And GOD willing, you don’t have any health related problems. A baby will change your life, there is no doubt about that. Hopefully, if your like me, it changes it for the better.