I was thinking about all the seasons and holidays of the year and how they affect us mentally and emotionally. Of all the seasons, I think fall and the Holiday season, consisting of Thanksgiving and Christmas, affect us the most deeply.
Maybe it is because we are planning to be with family, either those we love or not so much, or maybe we love them and get the cold shoulder back. Then there are those who have no family for whatever tragedy or reason. These thoughts go deep with most folks and cause great pondering and sometimes intense stress.
Fall makes me think of the more rustic of “things”, and pondering of the spirit. Reflection always comes into play as well as the leaves fall and winter nears. So I guess it is fitting that fall precedes the Holidays.
Once we get past all of the fall clean up, we are out with the old and in with the “sparkling” things! Candles are lit and feasts are to be had as we are thankful for the bounty God has given to us. If you don’t thank God … shame on you!!!
Christmas brings even more sparkles. Everywhere something is glistening. For many it is hard to be happy because of hardships. For others they find joy in giving and watching others smile and live for that “twinkle” in the eyes of the one they are doting on.
Children can go a variety of ways during the holidays. Their moods can rise and fall with poor eating habits and wantings. This is where grownups have to be examples and uncomplicate things by making the season about giving instead. Even us grownups can find ourselves being spoiled brats. Again why over complicate things? Step back, take a deep breath and see the season for what it should be.
Pressures at the Holidays:
Most folks find themselves under pressure just at the thought of the Holidays. Families do not wish to get along; everything is too expensive, and many cannot afford to live and give also. There are things we can do to help the season be bright for those we love.
Work around the gift buying if your family cannot truly afford it. Now, now don’t be stingy if you are able to give. After all, it is a heart thing, and when we get into the spirit of giving, it is well worth it, if doable. But, if not doable, then do as some I know who do not buy presents but focus on each other and the giving of love at this time of year. There are many ways one can give a gift without spending a dime. After all, when you are dead, what do your friends and family remember? They remember those times you “spent time” with them. Give this a try.. I think you will learn to like it.
Ok, what if your family is so difficult that you dread each and every moment with them. Then you are forced to sit down and eat with them and be harassed by them for several hours or days. This is truly a predicament but there are ways to deal with it.
If you know certain things aggravate or set off certain people, avoid those conversations like the plague. If wearing certain colors … yes if you can believe it this can happen…bother a person you are around, think about choosing differently. Case in point, a relative I have to spend time around each Christmas is adversely affected by a certain shade of red. This person will be much more angry if I wear red than if I wear say.. green. There is some psychology behind this and it has been proven to be a real thing that happens to certain folks.
Plan and remember:
Planning ahead can go a long way as well to thwart the blues this Holiday season. Just remember what it is a holiday for. Thanksgiving…to be thankful to God and for every blessing including life we have. Then Christmas is all about being thankful to God for sending his Son to us. If you are not a Christian, what a better time to consider the gift God gave to us through Jesus Christ.
All said and done, how can you have an overcomplicated Holiday season if you are being thankful? It is impossible to gripe and be thankful at the same time. Give that one a try, haha, and see how hard it is.
Lighten up, and if there are things on your to do list that always make you frazzled, either let others in your family or friend circle help, or just ditch it entirely. Make time to love the ones you love by spending time, and have a very Happy Thanksgiving, and Merry Christmas!