You have seen them out in public. Those parents and children who think the rules do not apply to them. Children who are allowed to behave as they wish with no discipline; parents who over indulge and act like everyone finds juniors antics cute. These people act is they have exalted status. The children are not corrected, chastised or reigned in, no matter how obnoxious their behavior becomes. When these children interact in public places, they are rude to other children and adults. The world revolves around them. If someone calls them on their behavior, mama and papa swoop in to protect their little angel’s ‘rights’ and are oblivious to the mounting fury around them.
For those of us who plays by the rules, respect the rights of others and teach our children right from wrong, people like this are intensely annoying. Axe murder would be too kind. Mercifully selfish, over indulgent parents are a minority. But they can be a real problem if you are in a social group with them. And curiously, they are usually the first to note any bad behavior in someone else’s child. What can you do to protect your child from these monsters?
Here is a good rule of thumb. Don’t turn a blind eye. Confront the situation. If this is a regular situation and you will be thrown in with these people and their children regularly, don’t make the mistake of biting your tongue. Sefish parents are indulgent because they are lazy. They may appear involved; they may talk about how busy they are. But take a close look; these people always manage to be there for the fun, but not the work. The truth is that they think everyone owes them something. They believe that their children can do no wrong because it’s easier than confronting the truth about the behavior problems. And the problem will only increase as time goes by. As the children get older, they get more accustomed to being a law unto themselves. Trust me, I’ve known families like this and known them for decades. It doesn’t get better.
Confront the situation before your child becomes a target. Don’t worry about trying to get the family to shape up. It’s harder than pulling hens’ teeth to get indulgent parents to wake up and get it together. Do it for your children. And don’t wait for others to jump on the bandwagon. These type of people tend to hold some bizarre influence over the weak-minded and gullible. Either that or everyone is so worried about being ‘nice’ that they forget to protect their children. You may not win any popularity contests. But do not let these people ride herd over your children. Do not let your children be taken advantage of; do not let yourself be taken advantage of. It’s very distressing for your children to see you hurt. And kids are very savvy; they can usually tell the difference between safe people and screwballs. If you have to pull your children out of a bad friendship or situation, do it. Your kids are important, more important than some ‘friendship’ that isn’t a friendship.