A lot of colleges combine homecoming weekend with family weekend so that parents who are alumni could have a good time reminiscing about their stay at the school while learning about their child’s new adventures. There are several planned activities around the major event of the homecoming dance and football game, which might include a carnival or fall festival, tours of Greek town and a parade.
Several of the colleges are teaching their students about the importance of giving back and volunteerism and with that, a lot of the schools are holding blood drives in order to help their local chapter of the Red Cross. This would be a great opportunity for parents and students to do something meaningful together. There are other possibilities that might present themselves to help out the community and also make way for the bonding of parent and child. Working at the local food pantry or visiting the elderly or Veteran’s at a local shelter or hospital are all opportunities for giving and bonding.
There are several things a parent of a college age student should remember and the number one thing is that they are no longer students at this school. Even if they are planning on meeting some of their old buddies, it would be inappropriate to take a son or daughter out with the parent’s gang to a bar or old hang out. Introductions could be made but then the two parties should go their separate ways, perhaps meeting up at a tailgating party or better yet, inside the football game.
There are good things about going to a homecoming with your college student as an alumnus. There could be good stories about how their parents met if they both went to the school; stories about hanging out and particular places one parent or the other liked to study. No doubt there are still several pizza places, small diners or other special places that were open to the parents when they went to school some 20 years earlier.
If a parent wants to take their student, who is of drinking age, out for a drink, keep it light. Only have one or two drinks and then move on. Neither the child nor the parents need to see the other ‘fall down drunk’, especially at a nice occasion such as the homecoming.
This would be a great opportunity for a parent to show a student what they used to do and for the student to show their parents what they do now. The outcomes might be surprisingly different or eerily similar.