I’m the mother of three small children, each of whom was delivered in a different hospital by a different doctor or midwife. Just as each child was unique, each birth experience was decidedly unique, too. Driven to find a new doctor or midwife after moving, in my case, I was happy with all of the prenatal and postnatal care that I received. I’m not always so easy to please-but when it came to finding the perfect prenatal care, I simply knew what to look for and how to best go about finding it. Perfect prenatal care does exist!
Bedside manner counts.
The bedside manner of your doctor or midwife matters when considering your perfect birth experience. While you may appreciate your doctor’s no-nonsense demeanor during a routine check-up, you could find that you’re looking for something different when you have your first child. Look for a doctor or midwife that puts you at ease, makes you feel comfortable and confident, listens when you speak, and is someone you want present at the birth of your child, if given the choice.
The best referral for a doctor or midwife is word of mouth. No matter how great the website or how friendly the office staff, recommendations from family and friends are crucial in finding the perfect prenatal care. Remember to consider the source when trying to find the perfect match in a doctor or midwife, too. Recently pregnant friends or family members with whom you share similar tastes and temperaments are a great place to start your search. Outdated recommendations or suggestions from casual acquaintances may not work out as well as you’d like.
Be honest with yourself and your prenatal care provider.
Before you can find the prenatal care, you need to be honest about what it is you are looking for. Pregnancy is no time to yourself or your doctor/midwife about who you are and what you are looking for. Take some time to sit down and reflect about who you are and what your ideal birth will look like-and then think about how the two will go together. While you may be able to find perfect prenatal care, a picture perfect birth experience can be a little harder to come by, especially if you aren’t honest about who you are and what you need and want.
Consult with an expert.
Taking along your spouse, partner, or a close friend or family member to an appointment can be very helpful in making the final cut as you find the perfect doctor or midwife to see you through your pregnancy. Not only can they offer you their feedback about the provider, but someone who knows you well will be able to see if you two are good fit for one another.
Don’t be afraid to make a move.
One of the biggest hurdles to finding the perfect prenatal care is being afraid to make a switch. If you can tell that you and your doctor or midwife aren’t jiving, it’s time to cut the cord and move on. Continue to keep regularly scheduled appointments until you’ve found someone with whom you feel more comfortable and who has room in their schedule to care for you for the rest of your pregnancy.
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