Whether you have one child or five, being a parent is hard work. There are times when you just need to get away from it all and also get some time alone with one another. You need to prevent the burnout that often comes from parenting and take time to rejuvenate your relationship without the children in the mix. This can be done with a parents’ night out.
You should try to plan at least once a month to go out together as a couple. If possible, try to do once a week date nights or parents’ night out. This is a great way to build the connection between the two of you as a couple and also to help you feel closer with your partner.
Child-bearing responsibilities can really bog down the relationship. If you’re the parent who stays home to take care of the children or bears the brunt of the household responsibilities, it can take an even greater toll on your well-being and self esteem and can lead to resentment or depression over time. The parents’ night out policy helps prevent this.
Here are some ways you can plan a parents’ night out and get some time to yourselves:
Try something new- Even if you’re already doing a “date night” or parents’ night out, it may not be fully working for you if you are not getting variety in what you do. Studies have shown that trying something new together or mixing up the restaurant you go to for dinner and other activities will help strengthen the bond.
Bring back the romance- Sometimes a busy routine with work, children and more can suck the romance out of even the most sultry couple. To get out of a parenting rut and back into the roles that led you to becoming parents in the first place, you sometimes have to make effort to bring the romance back to the relationship. Use your parents’ night out to help you achieve this.
Avoid “kid talk” on parents’ night out- You should make other opportunities to discuss the kids and other parenting responsibilities. On your night out, leave all the kid talk at the house. This is about you and your partner spending some quality time together and being adults, separate from being parents, even if just for a night. It’s not selfish and it doesn’t mean you don’t care about your kids; it just means you are taking some time to take care of yourself and your relationship.
Be adventurous- Sometimes you need to break out of a rut and do something outside of the norm of what you do as a couple. Instead of driving, making you will take a bus around the city or if you’re not usually outdoorsy people, you might go hiking in the mountains together. Exploring new horizons together will help you build your bond as a couple.
Bring back an old classic- It’s great to try new things but sometimes you need to bring back a classic activity or event that you once did together. This helps remind you both of why you chose to be together in the first place.
With these tips and ideas, you’re ready to plan your next parents’ night out and get some time together with one another which you need and that helps build your relationship with one another and with the children. These nights out will actually strengthen the family as a whole over time.