Are you engaged, or in a serious relationship? While you probably think you know your future spouse very well, it doesn’t hurt to search for new ways to learn more about each other. Asking random questions will help ensure that you are making the best choice. Asking questions can also lead to meaningful, deep discussions. Here are a few questions to ask your fiance or fiancee before you get married.
How to do you feel about pornography accountability software for the computer?
Pornography has destroyed many marriages and relationships. It can have detrimental effects on a marriage. Many couples choose to use accountability software such as X3Watch. X3Watch will notify the spouse if one visits a questionable website. It also have filtering services available. Check out the website here for more details. Read “X3 Watch: Keeping the Pornography Away” for more insight on this program.
Do you think it is okay to keep ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends on Facebook?
Another random question to ask is how he/she feels about adding old flames on Facebook. This can be a sensitive issue. If your fiance or fiancee is against it, then by all means respect his/her wishes. Take a look at “Should I Friend My EX on Facebook?” to read more about this issue.
How active do you plan to be in a church after we get married?
Choosing a spouse that doesn’t share your religious beliefs could result in an unhealthy marriage. This can be especially complicated once you have children. It is very important to discuss religious beliefs before you get married.
Do you have any life insurance? Do we need to get life insurance on each other?
It’s important to discuss life insurance even before you get married. Read “Reasons to Get LIfe Insurance: Why You Should Buy Life Insurance Now” for some advice. Even if you do not plan on having children, it might still be recommended. Read this article more insight on life insurance if you do not plan on having children.
Would you be willing to see a counselor if we are having marriage problems?
This question will give you a sense of how determined your future spouse will be to help your marriage work. Many marriages will hit rough spots and need a counselor to help iron out the wrinkles. (If, by chance, you are looking for a counselor, read “How to Find a Good Christian Marriage Counselor” for advice.)
If we are unable to have children, would you be willing to adopt?
About 1 in 6 couples will have difficulty getting pregnant. Many are able to conceive using advanced technology and others choose adoption. Some decide to live as a family of two. It’s important to discuss this scenario before you get married, in the chance you experience infertility.
How important is it for me (and you) to avoid gaining weight?
Another way to ask this question is, “How would you feel if I gained 75 pounds, and had no ntention of losing the weight?” This question will help you and your spouse discuss how you feel about health and weight management.
How should we handle household chores after we get married?
This is a great question. Some people see marriage as a 50/50 partnership, where each should contribute the same amount to household chores. Others aren’t so picky, and are fine with being responsible for all chores, or hiring a housekeeper. It’s an excellent idea to discuss this before you get married and live together.
What are your thoughts on credit cards and debt?
This is a crucial question to ask before you get married. Fights over money are a big contributor to tension in a marriage. It is important to be open on your thoughts on debt and the use of credit cards. If you are trying to get out of debt, one great article to read is “How to Get Out of Debt: Tips for Credit Card Debt Relief.”
What are some of your family traditions?
This is a fun question, but is very important, as many people want to keep their family traditions after they get married. And, of course, it’s a great time to start new traditions. Traditions can help with family bonding and add creativity to family life.
These are just ten random questions to ask before you get married. Please also read “Newlywed Advice: 5 Important Tips for Newlyweds” for more suggestions on preparing for marriage. You also might check out “Advice for Wives: 10 Marriage Tips for Women.”
Congratulations and best wishes as you begin your new life together!
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